The How-To-Do-It Of Agape Love
Everybody knows we ought to love, but some people honestly make a stab at it and think, "This is easier said than done." And so they are faced with a dilemma. They know they should but are unsure how to go about it. If you find yourself in the group, the following guidelines will help:
Guideline 1: Get to know God who is love. Like filling an empty cup, God then fills you with Himself, and His love begins to flow out of you, touching those around you, making you a more caring person.
Guideline 2: Confess your lovelessness. Look up and say, "God, I need Your forgiveness for my lack of love. Please help me learn how to love."
Guideline 3: Understand that agape love is about how you act - not how you feel. The biblical concept of agape love is active, not passive. It includes tasks such as making the coffee, taking out the garbage, keeping a clean house, seeing that your children do their studies, putting your spouse first. Agape love demonstrates forgiveness for harshness and kindness for meanness.
Guideline 4: Start loving. When you understand agape love is how you behave, not how you feel, you begin treating someone with love, and as you do so, you find yourself "disliking him less" as C. S. Lewis puts it.
When you decide to love, you step across the threshold into a world you control, one in which you choose to act instead of react. Ask God to fill you with His love, and then by faith start loving, and loving, and loving some more.
A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another. JOHN 13:34-35