On learning and Stuff...
I learned a few things over the last couple days.
First, I get frustrated because I work really hard and it seems like I don’t seem to get any better. I have a medical issue that causes short term memory loss, so it’s an extra challenge, but I feel like I should be able to overcome it and see steady progress. I watched Brooklyn Castle today and they mention that most chess progress comes in jumps. You can study and practice a lot and seem like nothing is happening then all of a sudden it will click. That gives me hope.
Secondly, I’m a very competitive person. I just started playing about a year and a half ago and for a long time, if I lost a game, it ruined my whole day. I was pissed off. I was always taught the phrase “Show me someone who doesn’t mind losing and I’ll show you a loser.”
Then I saw the quote “In chess, winning comes from experience. Experience comes from losing.” That led me to lighten up on the drive, but I think I went too far. I go into games thinking “Winning doesn’t matter, I just need to learn something.”
I think I need to find a middle point. I was thinking of it like a defensive back in American football. They have to come out intense, pushing for a win. But they said a very important skill defensive backs have to have is a short memory because when they get beat, they’ve got to learn from it then forget it or it will affect the rest of their game. I think this attitude is probably the balance I’m looking for.
In case anyone is actually reading this, the picture isn't meant to cause offense, just to be funny. I'm a big fan of blondes. Red heads too, but I'm getting off topic. Women can be just as good at chess as men, I think.