groups good and bad

i get involved ... to a degree in various groups , but i find they are either too intense or too quiet most of the time maybe i should make one ?? it would be a bit draconian tho ... i am thinking about it ... the admin worries me a bit cause really all i want to do is play lots and lots of chess ,,,but i`ve made numerous friends and only a couple of enemies (ha ha ha ).... i`ll keep y`all posted any way it will try and be specific.. loosely speaking.