Live Chess

I'm newly to the site and it's very disappointing to me, I cant stay on the board long enough to play live chess with out it kicking me off. And might I say I'm a very good player. I have been playing for two years. Once I get in a good game the window closes or my opponent aborts and I know this is not on purpose that my opponets aborts! Please helpI'm in deperate need of playing.