Humiliation: How I Stopped Worrying and Learned to Take a Beating

Humiliation: How I Stopped Worrying and Learned to Take a Beating

themosse
themosse
Dec 13, 2013, 9:31 AM |
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Although I'm "new" to Chess, I am not new to boardgames otherwise. I've played actively for years and can boast a 150+ collection of modern boardgames. With this comes a skill that I find very important: Knowing how to lose.

I lose more than I win, not only in Chess but in gaming in general. I don't mind that at all. But in a recent game here on Chess.com I came across a quistion of common courtesy and etiquette.

When should you resign a losing game?

I was asked by my opponent to resign, as the game was already over. Don't get me wrong - I didn't take it personally, I knew the game was a loss, he asked politely, I resigned and he thanked me afterwards, something that's quite rare in gaming. He was nothing but a gentleman. A gentleman with a much higher skill at the game.

The thing is, at this point of my re-learning the game, I will lose so many games that if I resigned every game at the point I don't see myself having a reasonable chance of winning, I'd never get to practice the endgame... With other games than chess, in some circles it's even considered impolite to resign, thus taking away your opponent's chance for a "proper" win.

At what point is the game a "certain loss"? 15 points difference? Do I have to ask my opponent if he minds me playing on in a losing game?

I keep playing my games, I keep losing my games, and I keep learning from my losses.