hmm tahts better yes

That's because the competitive chess community is full of nerds who are arrogant and judgmental perfectionists with over-inflated egos bragging about their extremely impressive ratings in hyper-masculine fashion like a chest thumping gorilla.

In general, there are no nerds because chess is not about IQ or something like that. 
It's a myth.
Chess is about work and skill. If you want to be successful at chess, you need to hate people.

And that's normal because we're hateful animals. Maybe.

It's not "toxicity", but I have started blocking people who ask me to "play quicker" or however else they choose to phrase it.

You can pick a lower clock time or resign. 

I can take all the abuse under the sun but petty things like that irk me.