"White doesn't have to play 3. d5"
Yes, white does have the option to transpose into something where he gets much less advantage. He almost always has this option though.
"How can you say c5 is weaker than d5 if white gets space advantage either way."
Black achieves more counterplay against the weak d4 pawn in the advance. He plays thematic moves like Qb6, Nc6, Nge7 (or Nh6) to f5, and f6, and takes down white's center. In the Franco-Benoni, black just gets a worse position. It's not clear what black can do actively if white plays against the b5 push and holds his center well.
@X PLAYER JX We already had this discussion. Both sides play an opening. One person plays white, the other black. But it is the same opening. If we play a French Advance, BOTH sides play it.
You can't say that white is playing the Advance Variation and "Black's" is just playing the French Defense (it's a good thing you're good at chess- the grammaticist thing isn't really working out for you :P) - because what allows white to play e5 and go into an Advance Variation? The fact that black is playing the French! You can't play an Advance against systems that don't allow it, and similarly, as black, you can't just play the French Defense the same way regardless.
The way you say it is: "I had the white side of a French Advance" or "I had the black side of a French Advance".
Oh, and 1. d4 e6 2. e4 is NO LONGER a queen's pawn opening! It has transposed into a French (which white chose to do- he chose to transpose to the white side of a French defense). If black chooses to, he can also transpose out of it by playing crappy moves like 2...c5 or 2...b6 which give white a clear edge.
I'm amazed that you think this way given that you're not a bad player at all. It's pretty simple stuff, but I guess it's hard to change your way of thinking once you adopt a certain thought pattern.
1.e4 e6 2.d4 d5 3.e5
Black is playing the French Defence
White is playing the Advanced Variation
Now when you ask what are they both playing? People respond with?
They are playing the French Defence, Advanced Variation.
It is a combination of what both sides are playing.