Here is an article featuring games by beginners reviewed by Dan Heisman.
Tell me what's so great about playing a 15 minute game against someone who is just going to trade off all the pieces and get to a drawn endgame? The idea that most long time control games are going to be high quality is stupid.
This portion looks commentable. Firstly, long time control games may not all be high quality (look at my last few standard games, I missed pieces and missed mates) but they are better than blitz games. More time to think, fewer mistakes on average.
Secondly, what makes you think people will just trade off pieces to reach a drawn endgame? There are multiple issues with that first quoted sentence:
Well, not to launch a personal attack here. These are issues that many beginners (not just yourself) have. If you just want to have fun and improve at your own pace, what you're doing is fine. I play 5|0 for days I can't really be bothered to think and just want a quick fix too. But if you want to get serious and improve as fast as you can, then taking most of the sensible advice from the forum would be good.
Also, to add on to deafzed's points, tactics are the foundation of chess. Strategy and planning means nothing if you miss your opponent's dropped pieces/tactics or worse, give your opponent free pieces/tactics. And talk of a chess "style" is not applicable until you're past 2700 FIDE. (Only half-sarcastic here, the point is that until you can thoroughly understand [?] any position on the board, there is not much style to talk about. Picking between entering dynamically balanced complications or an equal technical game is style. Missing a winning tactic just because you don't like forcing moves or the resulting complications is not style.)
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Tactics is a disaster.... I put a few days into the tactical trainer and big deal..... I got up to 1400 according to the tactical trainer. Now my live games are horrible. Straight losses and I'm down to 1100 and falling.
My defence is gone. I'm not paying attention to what my opponent is doing. I might as well be playing blind folded. I'm not reading the position and thinking of a plan. I'm not trying to get my pieces to work together towards that plan. I'm just stairing off into space waiting to find the tactic so I can get a cookie.
Aaaaaaaand that's why you don't just play blitz. You just learned some new stuff and you simply won't be able to use it at speed yet. Everyone goes through this.
You don't wait for tactics, you work to get positions where the tactics favor your plan. Tactics flow naturally from superior positions.
If you're serious about improving then I strongly suggest you take a look at NM Dan Heisman's Novice Nook column:
He focuses a lot on developing your thought process, which is very important and something that just bashing away at the TT won't really teach you. For example: one of the first things you should be doing on your turn is looking at your opponent's move and figuring out why they made it - what threats are they making now that they weren't before? Also, one of the main uses of tactics is actually defensive - to avoid giving tactical opportunities to your opponent, thus keeping your pieces safe.
From what you say above, it sounds like your thought process needs some work. Also, playing longer time controls would help you to improve it.
my rating (national as i dont have fide) is 854, i usually play against people at 1300-1400 etc, and i win most of those games,
Ratings are math. The math does not work that way.
well thats how it is, my rate:854 (now its actually 1012 though) and i beat players at 1300-1400 rating is not everything!
This article seems to match with my experience. It references some openings I've tried and has a lot of ideas for openings I havn't tried yet.