I don't there's any set in stone definiton so I can only tell you what my rudimentary understanding of the concept is.
In essence, a tabiya is any position that has occured in practice numerous times, where the opening branches out in a number of sub-variations. There's no set number of moves a tabiya occurs after, it depends on the opening.
Take the tabiya for the Closed Ruy Lopez for example, which occurs after 1.e4 e5 2.Nf3 Nc6 3.Bb5 a6 4.Ba4 Nf6 5.O-O Be7 6.Re1 b5 7.Bb3 d6 8.c3 O-O 9.h3. Black can now take the game on numerous different paths...Na5 (Chigorin), Nb8 (Breyer), Bb7 (Flohr-Zaitsev), Nd7 (Karpov) etc.
We pass a lot of branching points/tabiyas before getting to this position (Blacks 3rd move, Black's 5th, Whites 6th etc etc.) that will take you into variations with their own sets of tabiyas and ever on...But when someone says "Closed Ruy Lopez"...this is what you think of, the starting point of the Closed Ruy Lopez family of openings (if you're being pedantic, you could say the position after 7...d6 is the defining one, but since the moves that follow are played in the vast majority of games, we're not doing any harm).
So, yeah, basically it's just a branching position that occurs in practice alot and is thus familiar
I've read that one should know the tabia of an opening. And the way I understand it, a tabia is a certain (common) position some moves down one of the main lines of an opening. If this is correct, then my question is: how do I know when this so-called tabia occurs? Is it after 3 moves? 6 moves? 9 moves? 15 moves? Is it always after the same number of moves? I don't think so. And if so, what criteria tell me that the position is a tabia and not "just a position"?
Thanks!