why do people always have to win?


people want to win for many reasons, but at the end of the day they want to do it for the same reason they want anything. that sweet sweet dopamine hit your brain gets when you achieve/obtain something you wanted (such as winning the game).

But I also think they just do lit because they just want to win.
But I do not play chess to win.
I play chess because I want to get better at it.
Do you guys just want to play chess to win?
Or do you guys want to play chess to get better?
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You do not have to answer this if you do not want to.

Being "better" than your previous self means winning more than your previous self.
If competition makes you uncomfortable then take up a different hobby.

Unless you are getting better at losing
Everyone starts out as a GM at losing
There's not much room for improvement haha

I've offered 2 draws in rated USCF games (I've only played 6, so 33%).
The first time was when I was playing against an adult and the board was set up wrong (opponent's king and queen were on the wrong squares). We didn't notice until late in the game when he attempted to castle. TD ruled that he cannot castle, but since he touched his king, he must move it. This will cause him to be in a very bad position, so I offered the draw.
The second time was when I was playing a kid. He became very emotional after a 2-rook blunder, so I offered a draw.
So, not everybody play to win.

I've offered 2 draws in rated USCF games (I've only played 6, so 33%).
The first time was when I was playing against an adult and the board was set up wrong (opponent's king and queen were on the wrong squares). We didn't notice until late in the game when he attempted to castle. TD ruled that he cannot castle, but since he touched his king, he must move it. This will cause him to be in a very bad position, so I offered the draw.
The second time was when I was playing a kid. He became very emotional after a 2-rook blunder, so I offered a draw.
So, not everybody play to win.
One time there were two little kids playing.
One of them was about to lose and started crying, so his opponent resigned to make him feel better.
So sure, not everyone plays to win, but I imagine people like that quit chess sooner or later. Chess is a very competitive game.

Chess is a very fun game. The competitiveness nature that can teach good sportsmanship is just a side benefit. The main thing is to have fun!
The importance of each game is judged by the player; for me, I play just to pass the time while waiting for my son at tournaments... so I don't really need to win any of the games to feel good and can be more generous.

The importance of each game is judged by the player; for me, I play just to pass the time
Ok, but I'm guessing the moves you make are not random.
- Developing pieces in the opening
- Not leaving undefended pieces on threatened squares
- Capturing material when you can win it
These are all strategies (or rules of thumb) whose purpose is to increase your chances of winning the game.