bad sports

As long as he makes hos move within the alloted time limit, then he is playing by the rules, to which you both agreed when signing up for the forum.

I think it is actually worse form for you to try to force him to resign by posting notes in the game telling him he is a bad loser and that he should resign.

If you did that to me, I would take the same approach as him and not resign, even if my intention had been to do so!

 You beat me to it Homer ,I agree with you completely. I was gonna ask Barney how would he feel if we said the same thing him. KC.

yes, he is playing by the rules. but that does not make it good sportsmanship. had it not been for the "i hate people who don't resign" i wouldn't care less. you don't find hypocrisy annoying like me? fine

and if you would both do the same as him thats pathetic

Just for clarity, only if you asked me to resign!

You never know, he may have been just about to resign and up you popped with a note, saying RESIGN, so he says to himslef, sod you mate, I'm sticking around for a while.

that's still bad on your part. 

and i didn't drop him a note saying 'RESIGN' ... until he started the whole slow play thing.

Barney -- I agree with the "hypocrisy" remark to a degree... if you're going to post that in your profile, ok, you are rather commiting to resigning dead-lost games IMO.

But, regarding slow play and not resigning... when I first joined chess.com I had an unforgiving attitude about both those things...  but I've come around to a new philosophy:  mellow out, let people play according to their own tastes regarding these things, and just try not to let it stress me out. It's the internet, I can't expect people to have my standards and I certainly can't enforce them -- be and let be. 

I think my tolerant attitude is the result of realizing that everytime I'm in a losing position I have an urgent desire (which I fight, usually successfully) to slowplay. ;)

you're right i guess. i should chill. the whole double standard thing got me stirred up.

I note you give yourself a USCF rating of 3783, perhaps people in glasshouses etc. etc.

i don't have a uscf rating. it was an obvious joke. do i need to make it 4381?

Why should we tolerate hypocrisy and poor sportsmanship? I just finished a game in which my opponent was a queen and two bishops behind, and he kept dragging his feet. And taking vacations...I did not say anything for a while, but I just can't understand why it is OK for him to abuse me like that. Yes, it is abusive and rude for someone to do that. It is mean-spirited.
I finally said something when I saw his bad poetry written in very poor English in a post. So, he does have time for that, but no respect for his opponents? Sure enough, when I got mad and said something, he tried to pick a fight,trying to  stir up trouble and hoping that I would say something so that he would have a reason to not finish the game. But it was finished anyway- finally. But what kind of person does that, except one who is deadly afraid of losing a game, as if his whole life is at stake?
I don't and I won't tolerate this kind of attitude. I will always be a good sport, but if they get rude and abusive, I will always say something.
Because if we tolerate it now, it won't get better. We need to educate these people and not let them abuse their rights and innocent people's time.

I heard the sense of humour on the East coast was a bit dubious alright!

I once was playing an opponent live on line, he was in relatively the same predicament as you describe. He had 30 minutes left on his clock. He just would not move. When his time got down to almost zero, he wrote, you have just given me 30 minutes of your life!

How awful!

Live is very different to CC in terms of your time commitment.

I have recently beaten 26 Grand-Masters and subsequently my USCF rating has risen 1000 points.

And now I shall go to bed.

I feel with you

what can we do,nothing

I recently finished a game in which I made several bad moves and later became obvious that I was lost. I asked my opponent if he wouldn't mind me playing on for the practice and if not, I would resign immediately. He said play on so I did for a number of moves, then resigned when it was ridiculous to do so.

Not patting myself on the back, just offering that advice to others who might be in the same situation. BTW, I learned that tactic from threads here in the forums re people never resigning, even when they are hopelessly lost.

So now a question: what about those people who resign at the first sign of trouble, such as a lost piece or a really bad position? Should they play on for a while rather than resigning immediately? If that happens to me, I scratch my head and wonder why they resigned so quickly.....particularly since I would rather play on and learn. Besides, I have been known to make a really bad move in a winning position which leads to a loss.

Thoughts?

Isn't there a simpler explanation for your opponent's behavior?  Perhaps, in the game he's losing, he's taking longer because he's trying to figure out how to hang on.

It is the height (depth?) of bad form to criticize your opponent's playing style while you're playing.

Well heres another slant- lowly points holders like myself are probably largely in ignorance of best  tactics;  so in fact Lady Luck  does appear, be she an angel or a Shady Lady like  MacBeth ! Frequently when I am clobbered by a good move I realise my game is largely  tho' not entirely Lottochess ,depending on benevolent converging coincidences and  V.V... malevolent....so  sometimes playing on can pay off ! Depending on opponent: When in doubt I usually say would like to play on a few more moves (just to verify condition of the game) so that chessmate knows  I'm not just mucking about.

Similarly when  a draw is offered I  often give same comment and more than once have spotted way out in next move or two..

i agree. but you are missing the context in this situation.