I feel the same way you do at times op. First, listen to some of the stronger players advice on here... They can offer better advice then I can. My only advice is play longer time controls 10min or more, and when you start to tilt, play unrated games. That way if you lose, no big deal, if you win, you'll know what works for your rated matches.
WHY AM I SO [removed ]STUPID? CAN SOMEONE EXPLAIN WHAT IS WRONG WITH MY BRAIN?
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> WHY AM I SO [removed ]STUPID?
Sometimes I ask myself the same too
Mar 16, 2025
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SammerChessBoys wrote:
You just have no discipline to work, you have to have a stronger mind and work harder! That is the reason my ELO is so high!
You are 700 elo and on a 20+ loss streak.
Mar 16, 2025
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GM_Raise_My_Rating wrote:
I feel the same way you do at times op. First, listen to some of the stronger players advice on here... They can offer better advice then I can. My only advice is play longer time controls 10min or more, and when you start to tilt, play unrated games. That way if you lose, no big deal, if you win, you'll know what works for your rated matches.
Problem with the advice on here is that it's only good up to a certain extent. I think a lot of the very high rated players (including some titled players) giving advice is they don't UNDERSTAND what it's like to start late as an adult and try to overcome these bad habits in your brain. A lot of them started when they were young or had coaches or have a natural talent, etc.
The advice of following basic concepts and reducing blunders works very well until about 1150. Then the pool becomes a coin toss. If you get someone on their bad day they will blunder and you'll win, but there are a lot of people that seem to know more subtle concepts that even if you play without hanging obvious pieces you might not be able to understand.
Sure, studying can help you get better at these positional and endgame concepts in particular, but not only does it take a LONG time and there is no way to directly learn them, but it all depends on the person, some people never get better at them.
This is what we call 'chess vision' or whatever you want to call it. It's intuition and some people play 10,000 games and never get it. Some people immediately get it and blow up in rating.
Mar 16, 2025
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#188
GM_Raise_My_Rating wrote:
@CattlesRevenge It takes discipline to lose that much..
He is a god among men it's true LOL.
Mar 16, 2025
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#189
TheWhiteKnight1997 wrote:
TheRookDuelist wrote:
I hate this game.
I also love it.
I have mild kakorrhaphiophobia.
I am 500 elo.
My friend is about to break the 1000 barrier. I want to get better, but every time I try, I lose and go on full tilt. I've tried finding books, but i can only find stupid kids manuals that tell me things I already know. I suffer from things like board blindness and all my ELO does is spike, fall and plateau on repeat. I have serious self confidence issues and am starting to think it's just not worth it to play this game anymore. I'm burned out, my morale is at an all time low, and the few help opportunities I've found are too busy with other people. I need someone who can help teach me, show me my flaws, and help improve as a chess player. I want to beat my friends and become the best that I can be, but I'm not sure I'm cut out for it after all.
Consider getting a coach, it sounds like a potential opportunity.
Yes and no. Problem is obviously it will cost a lot of money as coaching isn't an immediate process. Putting someone on retainer for months or even years is going to be costly. But even beyond fair compensation for their guidance, a lot of coaches (not all) are giving you stuff you can learn by yourself. The best thing a coach can do is analyze your games one on one and show you your weaknesses, but again, that's hardly a straightforward process.
Therapy may be more beneficial for me, as I treat each game like a fight to the death.
Mar 16, 2025
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#190
I agree with you Cattles.. I think what I need is to find a chess club in my area that I can sit and play actual people. One of my problems, and I'm sure many fall into this, is getting burnt out on online chess. You learn way more when you have someone across from you and when you have to move the pieces.. at least I do.
As I stated before, you may have very little talent for the game. Consider taking up fishing with lures. That can be somewhat intellectually challenging.
Mar 16, 2025
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#192
Chessflyfisher wrote:
As I stated before, you may have very little talent for the game. Consider taking up fishing with lures. That can be somewhat intellectually challenging.
Take your condescending and defeatist attitude and get off this post. I'm not interested in quitting.
@CattlesRevenge I see you are back above 1200. Well done! 👏
Mar 16, 2025
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#194
Stan2008Stan wrote:
@CattlesRevenge I see you are back above 1200. Well done! 👏
Thanks you seem to be shooting upwards really fast. Didn't you make a post just last week saying you hit 1500?
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CattlesRevenge escribió:
Also when I tilt I spend like at least an entire day being angry and depressed, and when I win a bunch and end on a win I'll be happy all day. Yesterday I was doing my laundry in the communal laundry room and was on a massive losing streak and I was afraid of hurting someone there.
@CattlesRevenge Don't let chess control your personality and attitude. Please do something to solve this issue. Talk to someone who can support you personally. Please make sure to not let chess make you a depressed person. If you are in a bad mood because of losing in chess, find out where you can improve (make sure to be peaceful when you are doing analysis of your games) and come back stronger later. If you need further help, I have posted comments before on this thread. These comments may help you control your anger in chess. Being able to control yourself is the main priority here (if you are able to control yourself and stay happy, that's a win in my book).
When I'm focused, in a good mood, and not worried about losing, I feel like I'm in so much more control of the board. I just feel like every loss is a failure on my part. Like I got outsmarted by low elo players who have learned chess much sooner than I did. This is faulty logic probably but it's my main problem in trying to advance.
I also don't analyze my games properly. I go through the analysis tool quickly and look at the 'best moves' for like 5 minutes. This is also probably not enough to improve.
@CattlesRevenge Then, you need to improve at those things, and strenghten your weak-spots, like the analysis of games, for example. Make sure you find a clever and unique way that works specifically for you solely, that you can apply to analyze your games better, and to also find your own path to getting better at chess. Take my word on this: The way to get better ISN'T to play a lot. It is to find a clever and unique way to get better at the game that works for you. You think Ben Finegold became a Grandmaster by playing a lot? On his video on "Why you are not improving at chess" (one of his most viewed videos on Youtube) he says that he was a beginner for years, way longer than most of you have been, and he LOST "every game". He didn't get good due to playing a lot, he got good because he found a way to get good that worked out for him. You need to be calm and collected through your journey at getting good at chess. It's kinda like treasure hunting (imagine a guy named Bob who goes treasure hunting), you don't find a treasure from searching a lot, you find it because you got a creative idea that popped in your mind, and slowly but surely, that idea transformed into more ideas, which ended up being what you needed to find a path that leads to you finding the treasure. Bob's own creativity and open mind, is what ultimately paved the path for Bob to finally find the treasure. Understood everything? Let me know. Chess is a journey, just like treasure hunting is. Good Luck!
It’s not worth it
@CattlesRevenge Yeah I did. I’m lucky to have not gotten stuck yet.
CattlesRevenge wrote:
Problem with the advice on here is that it's only good up to a certain extent. I think a lot of the very high rated players (including some titled players) giving advice is they don't UNDERSTAND what it's like to start late as an adult and try to overcome these bad habits in your brain. A lot of them started when they were young or had coaches or have a natural talent, etc.
The advice of following basic concepts and reducing blunders works very well until about 1150. Then the pool becomes a coin toss. If you get someone on their bad day they will blunder and you'll win, but there are a lot of people that seem to know more subtle concepts that even if you play without hanging obvious pieces you might not be able to understand.
Sure, studying can help you get better at these positional and endgame concepts in particular, but not only does it take a LONG time and there is no way to directly learn them, but it all depends on the person, some people never get better at them.
This is what we call 'chess vision' or whatever you want to call it. It's intuition and some people play 10,000 games and never get it. Some people immediately get it and blow up in rating.
Your last four losses were incurred due to tactical blunders. Blunders play a part at any level and any rating and will continue to play a big part for you until you are at least 1800. So the titled players giving you advice here know what they are talking about, yes a lot of games will be decided because of other reasons and reasons you don`t fully understand but so what. This goes both ways and there will be games where your opponents will be in the same situation. I have had uncomfortable opponents and I know for a fact I can be an uncomfortable opponent. I have had 4-0 life time scores against people and I have been 4-0 ed by people. You have strengths and weaknesses - identify your weaknesses and work on them as there is no other way. Have you identified your weaknesses? If so have you started working on them? How many of the suggested books in this thread have you bought and started reading? Or do you think you you can ignore people`s advice because you think that can`t be it? A lot of the people giving you advice here have also been 1200 rated and know what it takes. Yes talent plays a huge part. My brother hates chess, plays every now and again, has never opened a book and does not know the name of a single opening and is 1500. I know for a fact I cannot be 2700 or even 2600 but so what. Yes it is not fair that some players have inhuman intuition but it is not fair some people are tall handsome, muscular and rich and have everything in life without having to work too hard for it. Am I going to spend my life being depressed about it or am I going to try and make the best of my situation and the tools I have at my disposal?
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off topic, how is this for beginners