Forgiveness

Okay, I'll have another shot at this, it's been over a year now and I still haven't been able to get closure on this forgiveness deal. I recently offended a new friend and regret it deeply , but I'm not allowed to contact them anymore.  I was wrong , no excuses , but I was raised to be responsible for my actions and apologize when needed. In this situation it is really needed , but it's been prevented by this person refusing to accept correspondence from me. I understand the need for a person to protect themselves from more pain or discomfort , and choosing to ignore the person who is responsible for that pain or discomfort is certainly the easiest way to deal with it , but in my humble opinion it's not the best way. You see , we carry the same pain or discomfort from that incident with us until we deal with it properly and it grows in proportion to the amount of time it is left unattended like a cancer. Some of you have lived long enough to know what I'm talking about ; I hope the rest of you can trust me on be this one. So you don't just hurt the person that started it , but you hurt yourself as well , and it's been my experience that life , no matter how good , brings enough pain of it's own to make carrying any extra pain both unwise and unhealthy. Bottom line is we all make mistakes , how we fix them is up to us , and I refuse to cause another person more pain or discomfort by refusing forgiveness to be a repentant person. Thanks for your time and I hope that this helps you avoid some of the dumb stuff. 

It sure does take a lot of words to twist the situation into one where you're the good guy for demanding this person allow you to contact them so you can do them the favor of being forgiven, lol.

You're just being selfish. It doesn't "grow like a cancer" if you move on with your life.

Thanks for the input!

I entirely agree forgiveness strengthens you and moves you out of that negativity that as you said holds on you until dealt with! But I also agree that blocking is needed at proper times, also, given the individual who’s blocked truly wishes to be unblocked by being apologetic they very easily can contact one that they know you know to have them let you know they are apologizing. It depends the situation, and YES most definitely forgiveness is important.

Thanks for your input!

Don't be a jerk, @TIMOTHYTITUS is right.

Thanks for your input?

Why is there a question mark?

I was agreeing with you.

Typo, thanks again for the support!

Agreed. I believe he is right. Even if you think he's wrong in any way, at least respectfully do so. Forgiveness is important. It at least shows you're strong enough to come back and face that person who did you wrong. Sometimes, you can't just shove people off to the side and ignore them forever.

Thanks for your input!

You're welcome

lol

You're like... 12 years old. I can't argue with you because you don't even know what you're saying.

Twelve? Seventeen.

You are right about one thing, you can't argue. All I've seen you do is insult people.

This is exactly correct. Those who wrong others should have an opportunity to mend the harm, and show that they are brave enough to admit their guilt. Those who are wronged should similarly be able to forgive and (potentially, but not necessarily, depending on what was done) forget.

Also, as Chimp said, disagree respectfully, be an adult about it.

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I post helpful and nice replies all the time, for example, this is just within the last few hours.

https://www.chess.com/forum/view/chess-openings/would-you-sac-a-knight-to-prevent-castling

https://www.chess.com/forum/view/general/knight-endgames

https://www.chess.com/forum/view/chess-openings/how-do-you-play-the-k-i-d-when-white-plays-e3-instead-of-e4

You probably haven't seen these because you spend your time posting nonsense in off topic forums with all the other kiddies.

No, I haven't seen it because I'm rarely in the forums.

Stop assuming you know things about me, because you don't.

Obviously you don't know how to be an adult and treat people with respect. Please go back to kindergarten.

Anyway, one thing you learn as you grow up is it's a mistake to feel responsible for another person's feelings. This person who has blocked the OP is taking care of themselves and has no responsibility to help the OP feel better about anything.

The OP can offer an apology, and then move on with his life. That's the healthy thing to do. To demand the other person act a certain way is manipulative and selfish. People who post like the OP may sound nice if you have no experience with this sort of thing, but it's not healthy.