Hello Madridaoi
This is common to lots of people. People just get scared because it is the first few times playing against strangers and you dont know how to react. The best advice I can give you is just to play more and more. Eventually, over time, you will start to not be scared and play like how you play against your friends.
Simple. Get mad. It is the surest way to counteract being scared.
That's deep.
Hello Madridaoi
This is common to lots of people. People just get scared because it is the first few times playing against strangers and you dont know how to react. The best advice I can give you is just to play more and more. Eventually, over time, you will start to not be scared and play like how you play against your friends.
well , that's not helping , i think 5 years is such a waste for time as nothing much changed , i used to win when i play with friends , anyone of them because i feel confident , in here too !
Simple. Get mad. It is the surest way to counteract being scared.
have you tried this?
We all know you are.
Thank you!... this really helps when i'm home , something happens when i go out to play someone !
To the OP.
You have an inferiority complex when it comes to diect chess games. The best way to counteract this is to imagine your opponent is wearing no clothes.
Play the board, not the person.
Wow, I just read what a lagomorph is in a book a few hours ago...
oh stop rabbiting on !!
I know what you are saying and I've experienced it too. In the first big tournament, I dropped a piece in the first few moves...not once, but in the first two games! It was all nerves.
To overcome this is not easy obviously but you do have to realize that you don't need additional stuff to battle. Just playing your opponent is enough! I think it actually is a fear of losing that does this. So, just accept that losing is a possibility and then try to forget about it. Just look at the board and think about finding the best move right then.
If you concentrate simply on trying to logically select the best move, you will be putting your energies where they need to be. If you do this every time, at least you are putting your best foot forward and are less likely to beat yourself with nervous fears. Good luck!
Hi Folks,
Tangential to Madridaoi's post...
I don't have an inferiority complex, and losing is fine with me; I figure I'll just keep playing with the aim of lengthening the time it takes for my opponent to end the game. But I was taught how to make chess piece moves many, many decades ago, and never had the chance to keep going with it, as I was in college at the time & spending my time there academically. I do have the moves down again now, and that's about where I am, though I successfully finished a few of the free tutoring pages. In sum: I'm a rank beginner, though I do think I can eventually learn to play chess, enough to enjoy myself. I have some health issues (I'm elderly now) that distract some from concentration, but I'm thinking that being forced to concentrate on learning something new - chess - might help my overall concentration, all the while being fun too. (I used to play checkers as a youngster, and spent many a happy day being beaten by my older brother - and I still love to play bridge.)
A question that might help Madridaoi and me both: Is there a way on this website to find games devoted to people who classify themselves as the most beginning of beginners? I'd guess that that would be the route to increased confidence in game playing of any kind: gradually getting your feet wet first before the greatest of challenges come along.
And one more question: I can't find on my webbrowser (Firefox on a Mac) a way to post a question under my own topic. Where is this functionality supposed to be found? (I haven't paid money to join; I want to see how things go for me with chess first.)
Thanks in advance for any help! - Mary
To the OP.
You have an inferiority complex when it comes to diect chess games. The best way to counteract this is to imagine your opponent is wearing no clothes.
really helpful one!
Well Thanks everybody if you were helpful or not ..and for Mary , i hope to find a clue very soon :) . Thanks
And thanks to you for that rarebit of acknowledgment!
haha you too Huey :D
Try and play a beautiful game, irregardless of the result. Take emotion out of play and your thought process would become clearer.
Try and play a beautiful game, irregardless of the result. Take emotion out of play and your thought process would become clearer.
this should come with training right?
Try and play a beautiful game, irregardless of the result. Take emotion out of play and your thought process would become clearer.
this should come with training right?
Yes. Play stronger players. This does two things:
1. A built-in excuse if you lose and along with that you learn about your weaknesses and how it was exploited by a stronger player. Consider it a training lesson on how to spot your weaknesses and then work on getting rid of them.
2. The pressure is all on the higher-rated player because you won't be expected to win. If you do win, you'd feel great!
Hi Chess.com , i started to play the game 5 years ago , with some friends , never played before , when i'm playing in real with someone who i feel like he will win , i become the worest chess player ever!!! , i feel scared so much!, no plans come up with my head , and then i lose , even if the other player isn't really good and i can beat him in other time !! , is that some kinda of disease ? it's probably happening to other amateurs like me , so don't be shy if you wanna give me some advice .. Thanks in advance.