How to get club to acquiesce to a challenge?

Sort:
RoobieRoo

How do you get clubs to actually accept your challenges,  The last two attempts I made were both rejected and here is the rub, their site admin only accepts messages from friends.  If you are a site admin how do you expect to arrange anything with other club admins if you only accept correspondence from your cookie cutter echo chamber me and my bubble world?  Anyway if anyone has any advice on how to arrange matches with clubs that want to play chess and that you can actually arrange to play matches with please i would be delighted to hear your words of wisdom.

RoobieRoo

Team Scotland has declined your game request!

Wussies!

Charlotte

having 'only my friends can send me messages' is a fairly common setting for females i know. this is due to the abusive, uninvited and perverted messages that would otherwise be received, occasionally. same reason for 'notes' being private too. as a guy you don't have to suffer this abuse so you don't know about it.

i do team matches for one of the groups you wanted to challenge, send me a friend request and we can discuss it by message when i accept

RoobieRoo

Yes Charlotte I understand why females may do this and I cannot imagine the horrendous unsolicited abuse that you must receive.  If you were my sister and they sent you abuse I would find them and beat them up and make them apologize, only if you wanted me to though.   I was simply frustrated and this thread was a way to vent that frustration which in retrospect seems pretty weird, but anyway.  It was not only yourselves that I petitioned but others as well and i could not understand why we were being rejected nor how they expected to communicate with other admins.  Actually someone in your group did leave a message that was very reasonable but I could not respond to her and attempted to go through an intermediary which felt uncomfortable like I was imposing myself, but anyway.  In the end I simply gave up trying to get a gig for my players.  Now you have made us an offer that we cannot refuse, its all good. Cheers Charlotte wink.png