Advice on slowing down

Hi! My name is Lauren Goodkind and I’m a respected  chess coach and chess YouTuber who helps beginners out : 

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCP5SPSG_sWSYPjqJYMNwL_Q

Play a chess game on an iPad or another tablet.  Wear gloves when you play.   When you are ready to make a move, then take off the glove so you can move the piece.  After you move, then wear the glove again.  

You won't be able to move the pieces with the gloves on, since fabric and touch screens don't mix.  

Also, make sure you are playing with a slow time control, such as G/30.  

I hope this helps. 

Thanks for the responses I shall try both

Well, what's the reason why it goes out the window and you find yourself playing too fast? Is it because you get excited? Is it because you get in time trouble? Something else?

My recommendation which I’ve found helpful to others is to be accountable for every move you make in a game. This means you must explain why you decided on each move and what you noticed about each position that made you decide to play it. I’ve done this with several players I’m helping where we go over one of their games and they must explain each move to me. This forced them to slow down each move because they had to record their thought(s) every time. Plus if you record your thoughts it’s a fantastic resource for post game analysis. Hope you find a good solution to your problem!

-Jordan

I advice you to quicken up and learn from mistakes.

I have this same problem, and tbh it's probably the main reason why I'm getting so sick of chess. What's the point of playing longer games, spending way more time on every move, only to make exactly the same mistakes? I've said before on here that I've moved to Bullet chess because it's more enjoyable and suits my style more, but honestly I think i'm just starting to hate chess in general. No matter how hard I try, how much time I spend on every move and how many times I analyse my games, nothing ever works. I'm on the verge of quitting forever.

Defeatist attitude will generate a defeatist performance. We need to shift our mindset to curious, eager, and positive. Losses are part of learning chess and we need to view them as free lessons and not some bruising of our egos or whatnot. There’s no such thing as “nothing ever works”. Efforts may be misguided, insufficient duration to see results, or some variation of that, but give the right environment and time, results always show. I think mindset is important however and I’d suspect a primary reason you’re not seeing the results you want, among other factors.

-Jordan

The second option earned Wesley So a forfeit.

He didn't even write anything legible

yeah honestly i could use some advice as i move so fast and regret it later on

solve puzzles for accuracy (ignoring speed entirely) & play 1 day per move daily chess, only moving when you have determined to the best of your abilities that you are selecting the right path for the game to take.

Jordan, to be brutally honest, your "solution" epitomises this entire elitist community so perfectly. No substance, no weight, no meaning. Throwing all the blame on the one who's actually trying to improve, and who has done for the last six fricking months. Setting the bars so ridiculously high that only you and your lifeless elite toffs can jump over them. Ridiculing and insulting everyone who is trying their hardest to see patterns where there are none. My patience has almost run out with this game, but it's fully run out with this community. But then again, maybe chess was never my game in the first place. Because when I give every ounce of effort, I expect my performance to reflect that. Anything less is a waste of my time, and does not demonstrate my intelligence and talent as it should. I have a fricking masters degree, and I'm more intelligent than at least 90% of this community. But nevermind that, because chess is all that matters here. I'm finished here, I'm just sticking to the bots from now on, because they never judge.

jordan always tries to be selfless & helpful to the community from what i've seen.  🙂

A month ago I wrote to you in a forum post that if you ever wanted help with your chess I’d be happy to work with you and to let me know. But you never contacted me. Yet, here you are on the forums saying you try so hard to learn chess, you do this then that, you see no progress, you don’t like chess now perhaps, you view this community negatively, and yet you never took a free offer for someone to help you learn chess. Learning new skills is hard, learning on your own with little to no frame of reference or guidance is even harder. Try learning advanced mathematics with zero prior understanding or reference of it with only a chalkboard and a textbook and lock yourself in your home for 6 months. How well would you learn it, how enjoyable would that experience be? Now maybe you join a math club and with others and an experienced mathematician, or teacher of mathematics, you learn the math that way for 6 months, do you think the results and the experience may be better? 

I never ridicule others, nor intentionally insult them. I’m here like many others here, enjoying the game, learning more about it, and sharing my experiences with that process to others, especially those I’ve been in their shoes before. I’m not a master, what would give me the right to say who can and can’t learn to play chess well? But observing a negative mindset, which affects everything in life not just chess learning, and pointing that out is not an insult or a ridicule, it’s an observation on an important factor of why you may not be enjoying the chess learning experience or seeing the results you want with it. But absolutely if you find yourself hating this game or maybe this community even, surely your time is more valuable doing something else with it. I would not be here myself if I didn’t find value in being here, that I know.

So do what you want, but I reject your assessment that I’m a toxic member here, insulting and ridiculing others. Please point out my posts that show this if you believe so, I wouldn’t want to be blind to such things, but never would I even want to take time out of my life to make an insulting or ridiculing comment to someone else, there’s no good purpose that it serves anyone. 

-Jordan

In a long game, when you make a mistake, it HURTS. Hurts enough that you remember it for years to come and won't make that mistake again.

If it doesn't hurt then you're not invested enough, in my opinion.

playing bots is a total waste of time btw...

This is actually REALLY good advice. I had the same problem -- well, HAVE the same problem -- and the only thing that corrects it is taking my hand off the mouse after I move. Literally taking my hand off the mouse, off the desk, away from the keyboard. If I keep my hand on the mouse, I speed up and blunder. The physical separation reminds me to take my time and think.