How to force myself to think about my moves before i make them?

I don't normally use chess.com, (lichess for life!!) but honestly i don't think the lichess forums are that good. Anyways, i've been playing chess for a little bit, about 3 months now and i've been steadily improving, yet i feel as if i'm holding myself back in a specific way. before each of my moves, i don't really think about them, i just kind of play instinctively. sometimes i try to force myself to play with thinking, but then one of two things happens. either i got lost in the flow of the game and immediately stop thinking or i make a bunch more blunders than normal. most of the time though i can't even force myself to think . please help me.

That reminds me a lot of myself. What I did to help my game was signing up on Aimchess.com, a marvelous website, it makes a daily training program for you based on your data from chess.com, helped me a ton even as I only went with the free route. Do those excercises, and do a lot of puzzles and run through your openings atleast 10 times per day.

This helped me understand some things a lot better and the things I had problems with became a lot easier to manage, but new problems arose that I need to learn about.

 

Sometimes I'm to eager to make a move, I need to work on slowing down more.

I sometimes get stuck not seeing any good moves, so I just develop sensibly if I can manage that, puzzles help with that.

Also, I recommend watching youtube, GothamChess has helped med a ton! Both his lessons as well as his videos where he makes fun of low elo games, those helped me a lot in learning to recognise plain bad moves.

ok. thank you a lot!

You just need to get better at chess.  However, you are unlikely to get better at chess by playing exclusively speed chess.  You would increase your chances of getting better at chess if you were to....

Play Longer Time Controls...
For many at the beginner-novice level, speed chess tends to be primarily an exercise in moving pieces around faster than your opponent while avoiding checkmate, in hopes that his/her clock runs out sooner than yours.  And/or hoping to notice and exploit your opponent’s blunders while hoping they don't notice yours.  The reason for this is that in speed chess there is little time to think about what you should be doing.

It makes sense that taking more time to think about what you should be doing would promote improvement in your chess skills and results.  An effective way to improve your chess is therefore to play mostly longer time controls, including "daily" chess, so you have time to think about what you should be doing.

This is not to suggest that you should necessarily play exclusively slow or daily time controls, but they should be a significant percentage of your games, at least as much, if not more so than speed games which, while they may be fun, do almost nothing to promote an understanding of how to play the game well.

Here's what IM Jeremy Silman, well-known chess book author, has to say on the topic...
https://www.chess.com/article/view/longer-time-controls-are-more-instructive

And Dan Heisman, well-known chess teacher and chess book author…
https://web.archive.org/web/20140627052239/http:/www.chesscafe.com/text/heisman16.pdf
https://www.chess.com/blog/RussBell/dan-heisman-resources

and the experience of a FIDE Master...
https://www.chess.com/forum/view/general/how-blitz-and-bullet-rotted-my-brain-don-t-let-it-rot-yours

And learn what you should be doing...

Improving Your Chess - Resources for Beginners and Beyond
https://www.chess.com/blog/RussBell/improving-your-chess-resources-for-beginners-and-beyond

https://www.chess.com/blog/RussBell

thanks to everyone!

do blunder check . I mean look at this 4 things after you think a move before you play .
1 your king is in attack or not
2 opponent king can be attacked or not 
3 your pieces can be captured or not
4 you can take opponent pieces or not 

 

 

Since we don't have your game history or your rating it is impossible to accurately assess your situation.  Generally though, what you speak of, happens to everybody of all ratings.  You are not alone. 

Sit on your hands.

use you full brain