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lovelace1843
28 days ago
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#1
For some reason, I don’t want to play against humans and feel more comfortable with puzzles, bots, and the coach. But those don’t count towards stats so I can’t take advantage of the insights feature. Has anyone else felt this way?
28 days ago
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#2
Nope. I think you are feeling elo anxiety. It means you are too scared of losing your elo when you play. If you are just nervous then playing otb(over-the board) chess will remove that.
28 days ago
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#3
Thanks, Josh. The level thing might be a contributing factor. I think it might be more social anxiety though. I guess I think bots won’t judge me but strangers will? I posted on here to get an achievement and then played 6 games against humans. That felt like a big accomplishment.
I’m on here to learn so I can play chess with my son and spend quality time together. He won the chess championship at his school and I can now beat him about 25% of the time. It’s been a lot more fun since I’ve been on the app. :)
I’m on here to learn so I can play chess with my son and spend quality time together. He won the chess championship at his school and I can now beat him about 25% of the time. It’s been a lot more fun since I’ve been on the app. :)
28 days ago
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#5
The "imagine everyone in the audience is in their underwear" trick works well for this. You just have to imagine that your opponent is anxious as well, even if it seems like they aren't. Because if you're never anxious while playing chess, especially when you're winning, you might just be dead.
28 days ago
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#6
This is a very common feeling known as "ladder anxiety," where the fear of being judged or losing rating points to a real person can be paralyzing. A great way to ease into it is by playing unrated games, which allows you to get the experience of competing against humans without any of the pressure on your stats.
lovelace1843 wrote:
For some reason, I don’t want to play against humans and feel more comfortable with puzzles, bots, and the coach. But those don’t count towards stats so I can’t take advantage of the insights feature. Has anyone else felt this way?
You are not alone. I feel the same.
Although I like to know my ELO, I don't think the anxiety is for the ELO.
I like to play the Maia that plays more or less like humans.
I play it on Lichess and I have made some GUI with local Lc0 and the Maias.
I hope you get better.
lovelace1843 wrote:
For some reason, I don’t want to play against humans
And yet for some reason you've already played 8 games today against humans.
28 days ago
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#11
Because I inspired them to play. And also pls answer my question on #7 and I am on app, so how to do it on app
28 days ago
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#12
#7 You cannot play strangers with unrated you can only put unrated when you give a challenge, after giving a challenge to someone(maybe your friend) then just toggle the rated option off
28 days ago
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#14
The way I think about it: My rating doesn't matter, it's not like Im 2499 Fide and about to make it to GM. I am promising myself that I won't care about my rating until Im titled. (If that happens) (I hope by Freshman in high school maybe?)
Imagine being 2341 and then on the same day your elo is 100. Press F to respect the players that have faced this.
28 days ago
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#16
Yes, I've felt that way. Ladder anxiety is pretty common both in and outside the chess world. I wrote a blog talking about how I managed to overcome it.
https://www.chess.com/blog/heckinsprout/how-ive-conquered-elo-anxiety-and-how-you-can-too
Play puzzle battle to get your feet wet.
Yeah, you will win some and lose some. But the trick is just to focus on the board and say "I don't care who the other person is."
27 days ago
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#18
Thanks to everyone for chiming in! I hadn’t heard about ladder anxiety and it’s good to know I’m not alone and I appreciate all the recommendations and resources you’ve shared to help me.
#11 - Josh, while I definitely appreciate your encouragement, I do want to clarify that I played those games right after I posted in here and before I saw your comment.
#11 - Josh, while I definitely appreciate your encouragement, I do want to clarify that I played those games right after I posted in here and before I saw your comment.
27 days ago
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#19
Josh11live wrote:
Nope. I think you are feeling elo anxiety. It means you are too scared of losing your elo when you play. If you are just nervous then playing otb(over-the board) chess will remove that.
The site uses Glicko, not Elo.