3.c3 - The Delayed Alapin, would be great here. [I'm saying it as a French player who has the misfortune to face it sometimes ]
Sorry, afraid I don't understand. Do you mean after 1. e4 ...e6 2. d4 ...d5 3. c3? If so, black can take the e pawn. Otherwise, what is white's alternative second move? It would seem that after c3, black can always take the e pawn and so is at least equal, if not better.
One thing I changed over the past year is that I dont play the ruy lopez anymore. Instead, I play either the Italian or the 4 knights. This one change has helped my results a lot. I even had some quick victories of about 20 moves against 1...e5. But there is even more to the story.....there is a lot of theory one has to know to play the ruy lopez. Once I didnt have to study that anymore, I suddenly had more time I could pour into my black openings and my results improved with black as well. I also used some of this time to study tactics and endgame so that may also be part of the story.