I only go through stage 2 and 5.
The five stages of losing a chess game
Grief goes with chess, like pain with weight lifting.
Round 1. When I was 1400 I was a deer in the headlights unaware of either the situation or impending doom. I thought I was paying attention when suddenly something bad would happen. Half my games were going like this:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fxtP7QxgB5Q&feature=related
At least being pig ignorant ... especially how pig ignorant you really are ... abbreviates the grieving process.
Round 2. IMs David Pruess and Daniel Rensch made me aware of my plight. Pig ignorant. Not unlucky.
Full blown suffering ensued as outlined above, losing just as often, stepping on a long list of bannana peels.
Round 3.
Revisit Pruess and Rensch. This time actually pause the videos.
IM Rensch outlines the stepping stones and preaches that chess is a cold game in which hope (and faith) betray you. Logic. Objectivity. Very helpful at endgames, teaching it all like mortuary science. "Best moves." Cheerfully chilly.
IM Pruess oulines deployment which provides the climate for inflicting harm on the opponent as well as greasing the floor to provoke opponent pratfalls. King's Gambit. Enormously encouraging, with dashes of candid derision.
Still more grief, a little less often.
Round 4.
My chess.com sparring partner, Jerry Phillips, Benz3333, who was a very dear friend, gave me a lot of tough love thrashings and encouragement. To contain the grief we had an unspoken agreement to draw any game in which the other inattentavely hung a queen. He is much missed by many here.
Round 5, 6, 7, etc.
I dont think the grief/suffering ends, from bum to top flight. Apparently not, if you listen to Carlsen or Kasparov. Or Karpov. Or Shirov ~ you dont get to be the tenth best player in the world by setting out to be the tenth best player in the world. Or check out the very sobering recent Bobby Fischer documentary. What happened to Morphy?
It can be backhandedly motivating and still drive folk to drink. Or, yes Mr IM, you know who you are, make you a little crazy.
The five stages of losing a chess game
1. Denial: "No, I can't be losing this game. I was just a pawn up a minute ago."
2. Anger: "Why am I losing this game? How can this happen to me?"
3. Bargaining: "God? I promise I'll start going to church if you just let me win this game."
4. Depression: "I'm so sad about losing this game, why bother trying to play well any more?"
5. Acceptance: "It's going to be OK. I'll just resign."
Really?
you forgot
6. trying to remain cool. but don't talk to me after the game. I just need 1 minute to think about what happend.
? Looks like someone got lost...
The five stages of losing a chess game
1. Denial: "No, I can't be losing this game. I was just a pawn up a minute ago."
2. Anger: "Why am I losing this game? How can this happen to me?"
3. Bargaining: "God? I promise I'll start going to church if you just let me win this game."
4. Depression: "I'm so sad about losing this game, why bother trying to play well any more?"
5. Acceptance: "It's going to be OK. I'll just resign."