How does everyone here move so fast?

I'm sure you are right optimissed, I miss a lot and really no clue how to fix it, it is definitely not intentional. I recently bought a guide that has you do lots of tactics and slow down, but I'm slowing down too much and still missing everything, then feeling insane afterwards. I've played for over a year at this point, I am in my 40s so maybe too old and dumb. I was a good athlete as a kid and did jiu jitsu for a long time as an adult until injuries caught up with me. Chess gives me the mental stimulation those things did but none of the physical outlet at all which kills me because I want something to take it out on so bad. All 4 of those loses 2 days ago I was up material down on time and they pull a rabbit out of their hat, seems impossible everytime

yeah R1e6 isn't a natural looking move to me, I was worried about time because I lose often on time and worried about getting caught in some weird back rank mate or something. Sometimes I do checks only to find no follow up and lose a piece too so sometimes I am careful to give a check sometimes too esp if I am several minutes behind on time, I can see it would have been a difference maker, I'm sure in a classical game or a puzzle I could find it

yo your username is the answer to why you're using more time than your opponents...

Touche, I am actually processing and trying to calculate during the game and not losing on time on purpose at all. I haven't lost on time on lichess once, which may be insignificant I don't know. I think chess can be addictive to the point I am wasting time, thus the username. Although I think it can be a waste of time and I am terrible at it, sadly I actually enjoy playing and try to spend some time doing things I enjoy.

I just lost a game guy moved nearly 60 moves in 2 minutes and most were best move, and he was just alittle over 1,000 elo blitz, nothing to see here though....

Sounds like a cheater and/or an autist. Happens to me too bro

have you ever lost to such a pathetic opening?

https://www.chess.com/analysis/game/live/167372310126/review

also, you are 1236 after 2 weeks? how long you played chess?

I play that way too

There's hope. I started when I was 36, playing competitively. before that I had played a bit but never studied chess. I became reasonably good and won a lot of tournaments around 1800 FIDE. So there's hope.

Some people like puzzles and some dislike them. For me it was better to study defensive ideas and learn how to develop my pieces well and then coordinate them. I'll be 75 in a month and I'm still ok at chess so I do think it's worthwhile to keep your brain sharp. I tend to play both positionally and aggressively and I think that it's best to play practice games against humans and bots but preferably humans a little stronger than you and also weaker than you, over the board, where you give yourself a chance to think. The right speed is about 45 mins each for a practice game or more. Not less because you have to have the time to learn to think. Thinking about chess positions is an art which needs to be learned and when I play training games with weaker players, sometimes they play a lot of good moves one after the other and then blow it because they miss something. And sometimes I deliberately give them chances. Last week I left a mate in one and he didn't spot it. You have to train yourself to scan the board in such a way that you pick up all threats from either sidee, all weak spots etc.

Perhaps that will be of some help.

I recall there was a point near the opening when you chose to advance your e pawn hitting his knight. But if I remember,right, you were a pawn up at that time and you could have taken his d pawn and maybe pinned his B against his K. That was a potential game winner really early. A pawn up amd with a potentially problematic pin so early in the game is an automatic win.

Thanks optimissed I'll go over that game again later. Hope I'm still sharp mentally when I'm older and playing chess.