If it's considered to be tough, loathing on someone elses misery and loss, then I prefer to be soft. Sorry, but I'm here to have fun, play chess and to learn and to improve my game, not to pee on defeated souls.
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dejvidd wrote:
If it's considered to be tough, loathing on someone elses misery and loss, then I prefer to be soft. Sorry, but I'm here to have fun, play chess and to learn and to improve my game, not to pee on defeated souls.
He's saying that not letting it bother you is being tough. Not becoming one of those people yourself.
Just ignore it. The people that are doing it are the ones that are trying to make up for their lack of skill by attempting to bring down others. Find a new opponent.
In face-to-face play there are poor winners and poor losers. In online play, the anonymity aggravates this greatly. As so helpfully and respectfully provided by @kaynight (whom I have long suspected is a highly-paid plain-clothes ambassador for chess.com, and if he isn't, then why not?), you may need to thicken your skin on this site.
OHhhhh, OK thanks hicks. Now I get it. I'm not defending the idiot rematchers, I'm guessing they want to see if they can beat you with BOTH black AND white.
you can abort any unwanted players
hahahahaa There's IS a gentleman's rule. But that's assuming your playing a gentleman.
dejvidd wrote:
I am a not-so-good player living in this fascinating world of chess(dot.com), but since discovering this site, there are a couple of things annoying me:
* Why do players insist on challenging me on a rematch, when I just lost clearly and shamefully? To me it's like an insult/mockery and there must be a 'Gentleman's rule' that only the loser, logically, would want a chance for a revenge!
-So to all you winners out there, stop challenging for rematchs!!
* The next thing is the mockery...it is enough that I am a lousy player and lose a lot, but no need for kicking on somebody who is defeated! Enough with the 'hahaha' and worse comments when you've won!! What are you, 12? (probably). Stop dwelling on other people's misfortune if you are an adult.
Oh yes, and I've never understood the meaning of cheating...can a cheater tell me what the point is?
Check you later, mate!
/ David
Youre going to get remarks that will tell you to:
"toughn up"
"Dont be so thin skinned"
Ignore them...youre going to get those remarks for the same reason youre asking those 2 questions.
1. Ego
2. Self-Esteem
3. The annonymity of the internet
You are not obligated to accept/offer a rematch, and dont let anyone try you any different.
People insult, become rude,etc. again because of the annonymity of the internet. They are face to face with anyone, so everyone is an online tough guy. Dont let it bother you, just realize that there are alot of people with low self esteem.
chessmicky wrote:
I'm not going to say "Toughen up," but I might suggest you lighten up. On the rematch issue, just decline! Don't read so much into it. Maybe the guy just wants to play another game and isn't really thinking about you at all. Just go with the flow. If you want to play again, play. If you don't, don't.
On the insult issue you're going to have to face the fact that there are an irreducable number of juvenile jackasses on the internet. It doesn't matter what site you go to, there will always be a few. But another thing you should realize is that there is a well-established tradition of friendly trash talk in speed chess. The problem is that on the internet you can't tell if the last insult was made with a friendly smile or a nasty sneer, and there's no body language to help. So good natured kidding can come off as insults. Try and keep that in mind and realize that many of the people you swap insults with are just having fun with you, not trying to really insult you.
I get what your saying. My answers were directed at the OP, not myself. I do not do rematches, but on very rare occasions, nor i do ask for rematches.
Regarding the "rudeness" issue, like i said. The annonymity of the internet.
I detect more than 2 thoughts already. Are you of two minds, or more ?
chessmicky wrote: But another thing you should realize is that there is a well-established tradition of friendly trash talk in speed chess. The problem is that on the internet you can't tell if the last insult was made with a friendly smile or a nasty sneer, and there's no body language to help. So good natured kidding can come off as insults. Try and keep that in mind and realize that many of the people you swap insults with are just having fun with you, not trying to really insult you.
Strangely enough, I never thought of it from that perspective, thanks. :)
Judge not, that you be not judged.
Matthew 7:1
He who justifies the wicked and he who condemns the righteous are both alike an abomination to the Lord.
Proverbs 17:15
In the options, I do not find the "disable rematch" check. Where is it ?
dejvidd wrote:
The next thing is the mockery...it is enough that I am a lousy player and lose a lot, but no need for kicking on somebody who is defeated!
If your opponent acts like a four-year-old (and you act mature), then even if you lost the game, you can tell yourself that you are clearly superior to him in ONE respect, at least.
Thank you everyone for ALL your replies! I can live with the 'rematch-thing', just be not accepting, but last night I played a game and was losing -the opponent of course had to write 'lolololol'...the only lesson I've learned is to disable the chat!
"The world is a dangerous place to live; not because of the people who are evil, but because of the people who don't do anything about it." -Albert Enstein.
I just find it hard to do nothing, that's all.
There is one guy that I have played in correspondence chess, and I beat him in a very close call, something like I had a Bishop in the end game and I finally mated him after 60 or 70 moves thereabouts. OK fine. So he challenged me to a rematch. Sounds like fun. Ok. And another. And another. AND ANOTHER!!! He seemed to have opened up a can of whoop-ass on me, as that first game we played was the only time I beat him. No matter how many games we played, it was an infinite number of rematches and I could not get my second win on him. I finally told him after I stopped accepting rematches,
"I really think I need to practice and study more."
And that, was the end of that.
I am a not-so-good player living in this fascinating world of chess(dot.com), but since discovering this site, there are a couple of things annoying me:
* Why do players insist on challenging me on a rematch, when I just lost clearly and shamefully? To me it's like an insult/mockery and there must be a 'Gentleman's rule' that only the loser, logically, would want a chance for a revenge!
-So to all you winners out there, stop challenging for rematchs!!
* The next thing is the mockery...it is enough that I am a lousy player and lose a lot, but no need for kicking on somebody who is defeated! Enough with the 'hahaha' and worse comments when you've won!! What are you, 12? (probably). Stop dwelling on other people's misfortune if you are an adult.
Oh yes, and I've never understood the meaning of cheating...can a cheater tell me what the point is?
Check you later, mate!
/ David