Oh dear. You can use opening books and databases in correspondence games (What Erik perversely insists on calling "online"), but their use in "live" games is absolutely forbidden. Doubt you'll get in trouble over this since you're being so open about it, but that has to stop NOW.
Advice on using software effectively

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Opening books are better than getting the moves from the computer, but you need to be careful to get books that are at your level. Books that are over your head are no use IMO.
But there's lots of videos on you-tube etc, some of these will give you a good introduction to openings.
hello,
i'm relatively new to studying chess and taking it seriously, though i've been playing casually for a long time, now i'm starting to play regularly and trying to learn more.
I was just looking for tips on a study routine, and also i've inherited alot of software from a friend but i'm unsure how best to use it. My rating is probably around 1300 on a good day.
the software I have is: Deep Fritz 13, Deep Shredder 12 and Zappa Mexico 2. Chessbase Megadatabase 2012, Chessbase Opening Encylopedia 2013, Hiarcs 14e Opening book, and a variety of chessbase training dvds.
Right now i've just been playing on chess.com 30 minute games, then analyzing with shredder after to see what I missed. Also as a way of learning the openings, during my games i've used Chessbase with the opening enyclopedia to play the most common opening moves from there until I memorize them, then once "out of book" I start playing on my own. Is this a good way to get the opening moves stuck in my mind do you think?
Basically thats all i'm doing, analyzing games with shredder and playing my opening moves straight from a computer book. Is it worthwhile these days buying books on openings? or have they been superceded by opening software and databases now? Also, how best should I use the mega database in chessbase to study?
thanks for any advice and tips to improve. Thanks