Chatting during chess

It's not silence. Cyber handshake?

I don't buy the mind-numbingly automatic "good luck" as fostering any good will amongst chess players on the Internet.

Even worse is the post game "thanks". Ugh.

It is clearly stated in my profile that if you cant be polite, respectful and muster up even the basics of chattting ie: good game, good luck, etc.  then please do not play me.  And if youre going to be rude you will be reported.

Thanks for playing or thanks for the game is a great sentiment. 

I guess we must be complete opposites. But an opponent could have done anything other than play a game of chess and so I always think it's nice when an opponent says "good game" or "thanks."

I've struggled with the same thoughts you talk about in your initial post, Arstan. It does seem like the chat box can become a psychological tactical weapon at times. It's not my cup of tea, though. I think that's why the pros don't speak during a game. Any chatting about the game is best left until after the game.

The one common thread here is that in OTB tournament play everyone wishes each other good luck and after says good game.  I think its the "safety" of sitting behind a monitor that makes people feel like its ok to be rude and not acknowledge a simple gesture of kindness.  At chess club even during casual games people wish each other good luck. 

Yes its rude not to but also understand that these same people are the ones that are acknowleging the same good luck, and good game in OTB play that ignore you online. 

Do the right thing and keep wishing your opponent good luck ,and good game.  be the bigger man.

if some one says hi when the games start,then I will response in the same way,have madr a few friends that way,I came to c.c to play,learn more tha I know;maybe learn other cultures while I am at it.to me it is rude not  to aknowledge the greeting.

I'm not playing the game as a service to you, as your "thanks" implies.

padman, have you ever stopped to think of what the person on the other end is thinking or feeling? That perhaps they are really annoyed by impersonal "good luck" or the trite "thanks". Or do you just assume that your way is the right way?

Personally, I like to talk about random things during chat.  It might distract them from the play, or it might make friends with the person.  I don't like to gloat, and i will congratulate my opponents on strong moves.  However, most of my comments are random, and only sometimes thought provoking quotes that are generally distractions.  THe opponent can choose whether or not to respond, it doesn't really matter to me.

Gosh Loomis, why do you play the game? Complete and total domination? 

I play for fun and if someone plays with me than it's fun. It makes sense to say thanks after the game. 

Whether or not someone intends to provide the service of entertaining me, they do provide that service. 

It's great and wonderful. 

Well, in the original post the guy was accused of cheating because he was chatting, how can one constitute chatting as cheating, he needs grow a brain. It's find to say hi in any form during the game. I also agree some of the younger generation need to show some respect with their comments after a game.

No. I am the original poster so let me clarify. I wasn't accused of cheating because I was chatting. 

I was accused of cheating, period. I guess because I'd played decent moves. 

Maybe my opponent thought because his rating was 2206 and my rating was 1420 or whatever that he'd beat me in 20 moves or something. 

The games almost over so I look forward to seeing the computer analysis and seeing just how good I was actually playing. 

I hate disabling chat, and people always yell at me when I do it, sooooooooo, that is me.

StupidDrip95, How do people yell at you after you've disabled chat? 

The suggestion to play a computer instead of a human ignores the fact that computers don't play like humans.

Nobody has given a good reason we should all be saying "good luck" to each other. Why do I have to explain why it would be annoying? is it too difficult to just realize that different people have different feelings on the same thing. Once someone has that realization, then they can start working on respecting those differences. Then we're getting somewhere.

So many topics in one thread.

To the OP's issues.  I never take a cheating accusation as a compliment or as an insult.  I usually just assume the person on the other end is a paranoid unsophisticated moron. 

I am not an unfriendly person, as you may know, but I do find that chatting definitely distracts me from the game.  Yes, even in CC.  And yes, even if it's slogging through "how are you, do you like pizza, etc"  Rarely is someone clever or amusing enough to warrant conversation. I have one game where the guy is going on and on about random things and I don't even know from where he's pulling topics.  Maybe this is to distract? I have no idea.

Loomis, I used to think a bit like you but I guess I've evolved to understand that we are not automatons and I that I needed to let go of the Aspberger's.  We're humans and making the miniscule effort of "hello back" or whatever you deem appropriate...actually makes the world a more pleasant and warmer place.  If you are saying you don't find any use in it, then consider yourself a minority and give some consideration to how most feel...if you can do that.  It's not a me only world, but perhaps you think civic duties are overrated too.

I never say good luck...I used to find it weird in a chess game to see it but now I just respond with "thanks".  The person expressed something akin to a handshake and I've said something that doesn't betray me or lie to the opponent and still makes a human connect.  Some people might even think it rude for all I know...that I accept their good luck without offering any in return. Who knows.

Being kind when it costs you almost nothing is always time well-spent, in my opinion.

I don't usually say "good luck" unless my opponent says it first. I really don't understand what that means or why it is needed. Surely you don't mean that you want me to win the game, so what kind of luck is being wished ? In my opinion, hello or hi is completely okay.

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