Chess.com Is TOXIC For Women

It turns out the OP's account was closed for breach of Fair Play rules. That puts a whole new spin on this thread.

Men and women don't have same chances in chess world. But just because it's women who receive benefits.

I could make some list. From special females prizes in open tourneys, special titles by FIDE to get recognition. Tourneys with good prizes designed to exclude men (national championships, olympiads, private events...) Some of the best females in the world make a living and become famous despite not being anything special in rating among masters, and they would have little chance to profit in open section with same strengh being men, so they go to female events... Also several invitations to play top elite for those who have around 2550 too, several broadcasters invited by top platforms who wouldn't make sense by rating if they were men... And the list goes on.

Yet some still whine and complain. It's funny.

As you see some woman having the focus and recognition (some of them get accolades on female-only events having decent amount of coverage) remind that several masters (who play better than those woman) have much less recognition and much worse chances in chess world, just because they're male and nobody gives those gender advantages / special privileges. So those players should be entitled to complain, and their point would make sense. Not like yours...

And as JohnNapierSanDiego said:
HEY... *MEN TALK THIS WAY TO EACH OTHER, NOT JUST TO WOMEN* 
Same applies if you feel like nobody in chess world by other people. Nothing is going to change for the better if a girl switch nickname to Peter or John. Just be a nobody with male profile. Get over it...

I have an alt account?  And one that claims to live in France and claims to be a woman?  That is news to me.  I guess my sleep walking has gotten worse ...

Ow, Original Poster got account closed. Interesting.

You must have crossed oceans. Is that you my Lord?

I can't believe idiots still talk about gender on chessdotcom. Just play good and you don't have to care about racists, sexists, homophobes, or antisemites. I just read a thread by an Israeli claiming that this website is "anti Jewish" because he got many hate comments for his flag. People need to stop being so simple minded and easily offended.

Keep in mind that most of these threads, especially those created by accounts that are less than a month old, are trolls.

Make an anonymous and gender neutral account name. Don't make your profile image a thirst trap. Don't argue about gender politics.  You can even auto-mute your games. Just play chess. Any toxicity toward your demographic on chess.com is probably toxicity you yourself are importing.

Delicately played in proclaiming: Point made

You have only just joined

The OP was banned for fair play. What a joke.

     As a new player here with a fairly low rating, it's not unusual for you to feel overwhelmed, overmatched, and undervalued. Most male players in your situation probably have these same doubts. You feel inadequate compared to the top GMs? So do 99% of all chess players. Stronger players are pointing out your mistakes? They are doing the same thing to male players of your strength. 

     I'm sure that living in France, one of the more liberal nations on earth since 1789, has led you to expect more equitable treatment than is afforded women in many parts of the world. Just look at what's happening in Iran right now--riots because the "morality police" beat a young woman to death for wearing her headscarf too loosely. Certainly the same thing could happen in Afghanistan. In Saudi Arabia it's more likely she would have been quietly arrested and given a 5-year prison term at a secret trial. The list goes on and on. It's not only in chess that women have a hard time in today's world. 

     Women weren't allowed into top-level chess at all until less than a century ago, and couldn't get many opportunities in world-class tournaments until 30-40 years ago. It should come as no surprise that the people who have made a career from the game are predominately male. Far more men participate, far more of the professionals are men. Society changes more slowly than many of us wish.

     It is reprehensible that some people here make derogatory comments about female chess players. Realize that these types will make derogatory comments about anybody--those who disagree with their politics, those of different races and/or religions, those from nations they don't like. Some people are just jerks. I can't tell you how many times I've been called a troll or an idiot or retarded or anti-(whatever) because some clown doesn't like something I said in some forum. Don't think everybody will be your friend.

     Use this site to play chess, learn to improve your game, enjoy yourself.

I have no doubt that chess.com is toxic especially for women but also for men.

Although it seems to me that chess.com is doing a good job with its feedback management. But ... in the end it has no sufficient effect.

So many people here are toxic. 15-25 % I guess. Too many. They don't finish games. They are annoying in chat. They destroy the whole experience. They made me turn off chat. They destroy the trust on this platform.

Chess.com should punish them way more rigid. Give them their own bubble or whatever. It's no fun.

I read your original post and it's full of "I feel this and I feel that".....and NOTHING about what anyone actually did or said to you.  You sound like the typical snowflake. 

I would just tell you to put on your big girl pants, but you probably don't have any. Go get some and play chess. You want to be treated like a man? Then play chess and get your butt kicked like the rest of us do without whining about how we "feel".  
I guess being a victim is the hot ticket these days.   Call a WAAAAAHHHHmbulance. 

Zero sympathy here.....and it would be the same zero if a man were whining here like a spoiled child. 

Community is even much more toxic towards males

That's ridiculous. Turn off the comments and get off the forums if you don't want any feedback. You can also disable chat in live games. 

You sound like a 6 year old.

Please be relevant and kind…

So the original creator of this thread made a thread about how this site is unfair to women...

And then hours later she was banned for cheating.

That's too good.