Confused

i didn't see the thread, but we do provide a place where people can discuss whatever they want. there is often a fine line between constructive discussion and destructive forum bashing. it's not easy to moderate, and there are people who think you should never moderate, and people who think we don't do enough. so we try to strike a fair balance (and maybe pleasing noone...).

anyway, sorry if you were offended.

Thanks Erik, for the most part I have found you folks very helpful. 

Staff need to take a look at posts in"chess stragety to pick up women"currently very offensive comment is being overlooked. Also needs spelling correction in title.

 Come on Danielle its 2009 get with the program.  You need to treat people like crap.  Dont smile, dont be polite, and for Gods sakes cuss alot and be rude, and DO NOT take responsibility for anything!!!

Whats with this respect, and politenes thing you talk about?  Grab a red bull get together with your dudes and bros, and get a tribal arm tattoo and roll in your Mustang. 

For those here that will absolutely not get the sarcasm...this was SARCASM.

Sincerely,

The Old Dude

lol soooorrrrrreeee Cpawn, I can blame it all on my parents, what bad people to bring me up this way. 

As for a tattoo, I'm 23 now but if i were to get a tattoo, my dad would still kill me 

Thanks TheGrobe and Kohai.

Kohai: so the matter is entirely one of a misplaced thread?

 What no trampstamp???? Come on dont be such a daddys girl.  Do whatever you want.  And remember...when youre bumping around the old folks home all the guys in there suspenders and polyesther pants will be eyeballing that trampstamp peeking out above the depends.

n00bs, i can't transfer threads from the forum to the open discussion group unfortunately. Had it been posted in there instead of here, it would have been left up.

Help, I'm a forum addict.

Can anyone give prescription.

 chess.com is a friendly community and I'm guessing they don't won't you to do inappropiate forum posts but I agree with you they shouldn't do stuff like pikachu.

StoneSikich

  I understand that some northern backwaters of this small Isle of ours are a little intolerant and reactionary.  They vote BNP up there also.

please keep it friendly in here

lol rich was so offended by that comment he has quoted it twice in a new thread. 

Must say that Dan

ielle, although raising an excellent point that was long overdue, has probably lost about half her potential ooponents. From what I can tell, many of the guys here just want to hit on girls and dont really want to play seriously. The backward thinking of some makes it unthinkable that a female can actually play this game better than them. When someone earlier said about women and girls getting stronger, I couldnt help but think "isn't it the Queen who dominates this game"?  

Oh yeah and just to add Danielle of course you are confused (toquote the title of this thread). Ofcourse you are confused....you are after all only a woman. : )

Just joking. Before the forum board explodes in  mass of male bashing. lol 

You know.... my butt hurts. Does anybody have any preperation H?

In life, when someone adds "just joking" to the end of a sentence, they are usually expressing a belief but don't want to take responsibility for it.

Taking down Danielle's original thread was outrageous and ill-informed... particularly in light of the fact that we are daily treated to such irrelevant rubbish focused on women and girls who play chess and those threads go on for days and are never deleted. But one woman pointing out bad behaviour by  more than a few men is chastised. Unbelievable. Family atmosphere? There are entire groups on this site dedicated to objectifying women as sex objects and they have dozens of members and they play team matches and vote chess under the banner of hot-lady-love-chess or whatever and no word about why they exist on a "family fun site" -- but a woman starting a discussion asking for more decency is chastised... again... beggars belief.

from what i heard (i didn't read it) it wasn't the message of the thread, but the tone.

i takes these issues VERY seriously. i have 3 daughters and am highly concerned about the view of women and would support any thread in defense of a better viewpoint. however, from what i was told this thread was just abusive in reverse.

Well, I disagree that the original post was bashing in reverse, as all she said was 'dear men stop saying these things to me and other women'. Okay if the point was that she should have made only a private complaint to the moderators, but I completely understand her desire to open discussion on this.

Erik if you are as serious as you seem about the view of girls and women on this site, then I will take you at your word and make an abuse report about the 3 groups (at least) that I have come across that I cannot believe you are aware about as admin, as I cannot see how a parent would either want their daughter a member of or objectified by... certainly if Danielle's thread was deemed iappropriate, these groups cannot be either.