Boys will be boys! We are a few MEN that are here.
Controlling hormones
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Jul 14, 2017
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Monie49 wrote:
Boys will be boys! We are a few MEN that are here.
Judging from the Forums of late, the emphasis should be "We are a FEW men here."
isabela14 escribió:
Is it a "Guy" thing the inability to control even when playing internet chess? It just annoys me at times when someone flaunts their masculinity. Geez!
Internet is full of pervert idiots. You have to understand that there will always be some desperate loser who will say sexual comments to a user with a female name.
They have hope that suddenly the female will flirt with them too and then they will have a hot session of cyber sex. That is how damn pathetic they are!
The only thing you can do is block them and move on. You will never convince them to act properly.
They are losers, they can't get any sex in real life and that is why they are so desperate. Do not even pay attention to them.
Going out to the Internet, you pretty much have to accept the fact that there will be... um... let's say, "strange" people present. And that's true not just for the Internet, there is a lot of such people out in the world too. If you are going to give attention to each idiot that can't find anything better to do than talk sexual gibberish, then you might as well make it your profession. 
It is important to develop the skill to determine which people aren't worth your attention and to ignore them without a back thought.
stuzzicadenti escribió:
I just want to say that guys who make inappropriate comments to young women are clearly wrong to take such actions but they only do it make themselves feel good about interacting with a female and also hopefully to make her feel better about herself and like she is important.
There are different ways to interact with a woman.
When you talk like a normal respectful person then yes, you want to feel good interacting with a female and you want her to feel good.
When stupid pervs say explicit sexual things to an unknown female they do not care even a little bit about how she feels.
The funniest thing is that online they are all alpha males wannabes, in real life the sole idea of approaching to a really beautiful woman makes them shit their pants.
[Do no post using obscene language for emphasis. -CrystalMoon]
isabela14 wrote:
@OldChessDog, I learned to accept the fact that boys will boys. I came to this forum (chess) believing that it is different from the usual social media. I used to accept friends but the majority (not all) had other agendas besides chess. Yes, I can turn off my pc, block, mute for any unwanted conversation. It's just annoying at times. Thanks.
Men are annoying at times, but so are women. Get used to it...
Women do not start flirting with you on chess websites
Hey, speak by yourself!
Yeah, tell me about the harem you have here.
Ah, no, I run away.
Maybe not, but they do tend to bitch a lot about men when they attract unwanted attention. Not sure what their expectations were considering these chess sites are 90% male dominated.
Women are not stupid and they detect perfectly when a guy's intentions are more than "just have a random friendly conversation". I understand that they can get really annoyed and tired when every single day they get messages from men trying to flirt with them.
And it gets much worse when it is not "respectful" flirting but offensive sexual comments.
This is a chess website, we are here to play chess, not to flirt.
There are countless of websites and apps that were made for flirting, but a chess website is not one of them.
We can't say "Oh, men are like that, it's normal thing". I am a 28 year old man and I can perfectly control myself and I won't make any sexual comments to any female username.
It is not a thing of hormones, it is a thing of education, respect and common sense.
I don't think Isabela is complaining because someone just said "Hi" to her, I bet it was much more than that. So I understand her frustration.
Pashak1989 wrote:
Women are not stupid and they detect perfectly when a guy's intentions are more than "just have a random friendly conversation". I understand that they can get really annoyed and tired when every single day they get messages from men trying to flirt with them.
And it gets much worse when it is not "respectful" flirting but offensive sexual comments.
This is a chess website, we are here to play chess, not to flirt.
There are countless of websites and apps that were made for flirting, but a chess website is not one of them.
We can't say "Oh, men are like that, it's normal thing". I am a 28 year old man and I can perfectly control myself and I won't make any sexual comments to any female username.
It is not a thing of hormones, it is a thing of education, respect and common sense.
I don't think Isabela is complaining because someone just said "Hi" to her, I bet it was much more than that. So I understand her frustration.
I'm all in favor for treating women with "respect", but I do get tired of the constant complaints about male behavior when they don't receive the "respect" they expect. For better or worse, Society has evolved to treat men and woman as "Equals".
Much as some may wish otherwise, we don't live in a Victorian age when you tip your hat and hold a door open for a woman. It's sad, but If you do, you run the risk of getting insulted or slapped (and yes it happens). The double standard of holding Men accountable for their behavior without also looking at the message their own actions and expectations are sending is wrong.
Women wanted equality. They got it.
I agree Isabela should be treated with respect. I don't agree that she has the right to expect it.
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That is bottom of the barrel even for 5th graders.