Divorcing chess

It's-a me once again. Today I lost two chess games in a row from a stronger player. No big deal, since it was kinda expected, right?

Wrong. It showed me that chess is not a cruel mistress, but an abusive one as well. After taking just two weeks off from chess, having successfully worked on my anger management during that time (and it shows, because I'm not even as pissed off as I used to be) and keeping away from chess not by force, but completely willfully (and easily!), I felt much better. I don't even feel the obsessive need for chess anymore, because I figured it had been hurting me too much, so it's not wanted in my life anymore!

I logged back in today, tried to do a Let's Play with a few of my games, and after losing two of them in a row, I came to the realisation that losses aren't going to stop hurting, no matter what. And since I'm a pretty battered spouse to chess at this moment, I'm happily strolling towards divorce right now! Just wanted you guys to know this, so you can be happy that I'm moving on!

I'm sure the kind and compassionate chess.com forum regulars will support you in this decision - but seriously, chess is a lot cheaper than a dominatrix...

how to break up with someone: give them a sock and tell them they're a free elf now.

If you're unable to enjoy the journey even if the result is taking a beating, then perhaps it is time to move on.

Maybe Judge Lynn Toler should decide...

might I suggest reading 'chicken soup for the soul'

Chess and I are staying together for the sake of the pawns, but once they get all the way to the other side and are promoted we will probably split up.

Seriously, guys, your responses are so delightfully spirited!!! 

No, I haven't been playing other board games OR card games at all in the meantime...

Chicken Soup for the Soul, huh... Sounds tasty, I might give it a whirl.

well, its just a game.  if you didn't want to win so badly, it wouldn't hurt to lose?

I don't know.  I take it all in stride; if there was no losing; there would be no winning.  and if there was not game- well then what do you want to spend your free time doing?

I've thought about leaving chess for some younger game like poker.  The problem is my religious beliefs just won't let me do it - and live in peace.  Instead, we've agreed to do counseling - although I can't afford a professional, so I'm using Vote Chess games as a proxy.

I recommend playing with a lash or whip to use on yourself or the computer, as necessary.  It is easier than the mental abuse of losing.

ouch.  why all this talk of punishment, pain and anquish?  its just a few pawns and a beat up king.  easy come, easy go! 

When I push the "play" button on my Android app my heart starts beating like mad. Then I know who my opponent is going to be and which colour I am going to play. Right then I tell myself: I must do the best of this, I can always lose, but it is part of the game. But I could play a lot better if I didn't care about losing. After a stressful game I don't want to play any longer for that day.

So two losses let you create a forum thread and make you ragequit as well ?

Sorry to say, but you haven't really convinced me how you were successful in working on your anger management there...

OP, convert to Islam, and just say "Chess, I divorce you." three times...done deal.

Easy as pie.

:3

I once lost eight games in a row. It was frustrating, but I got over it. I learned not to play when I'm really tired.

It was not a rage quit, at least not in my book. I kinda just "came back from retirement" for a couple of games, and in fact, I acquired two wins and two losses in total (although one win was due to my opponent inexplicably letting his time on the clock run out when although he was in time trouble, he was also better, in all probability; so that's somewhat of a shame, but never mind that, I too lost on time once that day), in that order! Upon losing the second game in a row, I felt a hint of pain which "forced me into retirement" about two weeks ago (has it really only been that much? Yes, I've checked the dates), and decided to call it quits once again.

In any case, I think it's better to share your feelings in an articulate way (on a forum, for example) than to rage, and that's exactly what I believe I did.

Divorce nothing T93 !....why did you lose ?

I mean, I've lost every which way....and I mean every possible way....and have kept going. Your anger actually means a really good thing. It means that it means something to you.

(forgive my ways and means luv....)

Okay. Tomorrow is Sunday. Take 5 steps out into the sunlite and face to the east. Now, close your eyes, take (3) deep breaths, and think of how great your life would be if you were the 13th child born somewhere in the <3 of Haiti.

Don't tame your anger. It won't help a person w/ your type of personality. Get Mad....Get Mad Dam*it. Let it out and Let it go.

....then go kick their freaking a$$ hon........

This videos explains the basics well: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xh4sO1ICS_Q

EDIT: wrong topic sorry!

....4given.