I'm going to go out on a limb here and say you should organize a date. If it goes wrong, break up with her. If you like it, throw away your chess set and move to Love City.
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When you play chess, you think you're smart.
When you think you're smart, you don't act smart.
When you don't act smart, you make the wrong decisions.
When you make the wrong decisions, you play chess....
If she's hot, drop the pieces.
LuftWaffles wrote:
Estragon wrote:
Well, his girlfriend moved away, and won't return his calls, so I don't blame the lad for giving her up. Why, if a lady treated me that way, I'd dump her, too!
But that's not to say you can't have a relationship and play chess at the same time. You can, just make sure that if she blocks out time so you can be off playing, you make it up with time for her doing something she enjoys, like chick flicks or antique barn shopping or talking about your feelings and what whores your co-workers are.
If you're lucky, she'll let you have a few players over for blitz, and serve you beer and snacks and maybe wear that low-cut top to distract your opponent. But you will probably wake up first.
Made me chuckle because it's true :-)
I'm married 8 years now and my wife accepts and even encourages my chess. She will serve something if I have someone over for blitz, but she'll also let us know if it's getting late!
Once, when I had a tournament coming up, she surprised me by saying: "Shouldn't you be preparing? No point in playing if you don't try to win!".
Some of you would say I'm lucky, but it's not true because it's a skill you have to learn, to be in a relationship. You recieve as you give: I support her in everything too, and sometimes I have to sacrifice something, and I think that's the only way to have a good relationship.
So every loss you buy her a new pair of shoes or a new handbag?
Irontiger wrote:
I estimate that roughly 70% of the previous posters can't tell an obvious troll, even when he is displaying a huge sign "I am a troll, feed me" in the post title.
Maybe he is, maybe he's not. This sort of person would probably be rare in the world overall, but among the demographic of chess players, maybe not. I'm not necessarily saying that's bad either -- just that chess players do probably tend to grow more attatched to games and such.
Lol. This thread reminded me of this. Replace "rock music" with "chess":
http://imgur.com/gallery/EEFm4Iv
Raja_Kentut wrote:
Who would have thought that you would find so many relationship experts in a chess forum. LOL. I suppose troubled couples should join chess.com to get advice.
Maybe he just figures since we're all chess players we'll take his side 
Who's the Andrew dude?
well sire i sugest you make a move that saves both queen(ur gf) and king(ur game).be coool n i think its ur problem if u cant make her undertand that her interuptions disturb u i mean make a schedule and share it with her...i hope u wont keep whole day for chess alone......
May 9, 2014
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My suggestion in a relationship ?....Just be yourself (even though you're probably not the one most qualified)....
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Yeah... Although he looks waaay cooler than Laskas.
EDIT: Dissenters, please provide photographic evidence to your claims.
I think it all depends on what activity you find more enjoyable:
Chess or Sex, it's your call.
By the way Bobby Fischer is credited to say "chess is better".
Ditch the current girlfriend, you shouldn't have any trouble meeting a nice chess loving woman at your local chess club.
ha ha ha
Estragon wrote:
Well, his girlfriend moved away, and won't return his calls, so I don't blame the lad for giving her up. Why, if a lady treated me that way, I'd dump her, too!
Yeah. If she dumps you first, dump her!
granitoman wrote:
I think it all depends on what activity you find more enjoyable:
Chess or Sex, it's your call.
By the way Bobby Fischer is credited to say "chess is better".
Or you could just be like a normal human being a get both by dumping her ass and finding someone who actually supports the things you enjoy.
returnofxpchesser wrote:
to focus on chess more. is this a good Idea? it seems that everytime i want to play chess for atleast study it my girlfriend gets in the way. Im sorry i like chess and i feel my gf is getting in the way.
me and my girlfriend has been fighting alot besides me playing chess. for example ever since she moved away she has not made any effort to talk to me or keep in contact with me and if i do it seems like a bother for her to talk to me.
Girlfriends are around for a short time. Chess is forever.
MisssSunshine wrote:
i hope not all chess players in this website are such losers like OP.....sad
Yeah. I mean even having to come to chess.com when he should have just dumped her.
May 10, 2014
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I had the same problem in my last marriage... My wife told me that I was no longer able to play chess every 3 months in an out-of-town tournament.
Apparently I made a very bad choice when I married her, but NOBODY is going to tell me what I can and can not do! I missed her until I found a new g/f that was not so domineering.
Seriously... if you enter a marriage and one person starts complaining about your hobby, let's say you quit chess. Then your friends want you to join a Golf League and you do. Guess what? NOW the gremlin is going to complain because you are spending too much time with Golf.
I want every young man and woman to understand that entering a relationship does not mean that your spouse has total control over you. People have to have things that they enjoy outside of the marriage. If they don't then the marriage will not last.
Don
Arrakis09 wrote:
People have to have things that they enjoy outside of the marriage. If they don't then the marriage will not last.
Don
This is important. If you only jump where you are told, exactly when you are told, then you turns into a boring person with lack of drive and power, and that is turnoff for your partner, The love will vanish.
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