Feel like quitting

Go ahead and quit start start a new account under expert and you'll be 1800 Bam play one game even if you lose you'll still be 1650 and feeling good that you can quit for good as a Class B pro

I know how you feel, man. I'm having the same problem. Progress just feels SO slow, and if I don't play every day it sometimes feels like I'm getting worse. I read and watch and study so much about chess but when it comes to actually playing progress seems to be so slow.

One thing I will say to you is that it might help you to play against the computer on chess.com or elsewhere. That way the pain of losing isn't so acute. You can play multiple games and if you have a losing streak it doesn't hurt your ego so much as you're not facing a human being and your rating isn't going to be hurt. Playing against the computer is something that I resort to sometimes as I absolutely hate losing and sometimes when I feel like I can't face it I can at least get some practice in against the computer.

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https://www.chess.com/article/view/don-t-worry-about-your-rating

"..., you have to make a decision: have tons of fun playing blitz (without learning much), or be serious and play with longer time controls so you can actually think.

One isn't better than another. Having fun playing bullet is great stuff, while 3-0 and 5-0 are also

ways to get your pulse pounding and blood pressure leaping off the charts. But will you become a good player? Most likely not.

Of course, you can do both (long and fast games), ..." - IM Jeremy Silman (June 9, 2016)

https://www.chess.com/article/view/longer-time-controls-are-more-instructive

"... Just because a book contains lots of information that you don’t know, it doesn’t necessarily mean that it will be extremely helpful in making you better at this point in your chess development. ..." - Dan Heisman (2001)

https://web.archive.org/web/20140626180930/http://www.chesscafe.com/text/heisman06.pdf

Possibly of interest:

Simple Attacking Plans by Fred Wilson (2012)

https://web.archive.org/web/20140708090402/http://www.chesscafe.com/text/review874.pdf
http://dev.jeremysilman.com/shop/pc/Simple-Attacking-Plans-77p3731.htm
Logical Chess: Move by Move by Irving Chernev (1957)
https://web.archive.org/web/20140708104437/http://www.chesscafe.com/text/logichess.pdf
The Most Instructive Games of Chess Ever Played by Irving Chernev (1965)
https://chessbookreviews.wordpress.com/tag/most-instructive-games-of-chess-ever-played/
Winning Chess by Irving Chernev and Fred Reinfeld (1948)
https://web.archive.org/web/20140708093415/http://www.chesscafe.com/text/review919.pdf
Back to Basics: Tactics by Dan Heisman (2007)
https://web.archive.org/web/20140708233537/http://www.chesscafe.com/text/review585.pdf
https://www.chess.com/article/view/book-review-back-to-basics-tactics
Discovering Chess Openings by GM John Emms (2006)
https://web.archive.org/web/20140627114655/http://www.chesscafe.com/text/hansen91.pdf
Openings for Amateurs by Pete Tamburro (2014)
http://kenilworthian.blogspot.com/2014/05/review-of-pete-tamburros-openings-for.html
https://chessbookreviews.wordpress.com/tag/openings-for-amateurs/
https://www.mongoosepress.com/catalog/excerpts/openings_amateurs.pdf
Chess Endgames for Kids by Karsten Müller (2015)
https://chessbookreviews.wordpress.com/tag/chess-endgames-for-kids/
http://www.gambitbooks.com/pdfs/Chess_Endgames_for_Kids.pdf
A Guide to Chess Improvement by Dan Heisman (2010)
https://web.archive.org/web/20140708105628/http://www.chesscafe.com/text/review781.pdf
Studying Chess Made Easy by Andrew Soltis
https://web.archive.org/web/20140708090448/http://www.chesscafe.com/text/review750.pdf
Seirawan stuff:
http://seagaard.dk/review/eng/bo_beginner/ev_winning_chess.asp?KATID=BO&ID=BO-Beginner
https://web.archive.org/web/20140708092617/http://www.chesscafe.com/text/review560.pdf
https://www.chess.com/article/view/book-review-winning-chess-endings
https://web.archive.org/web/20140627132508/http://www.chesscafe.com/text/hansen173.pdf
http://www.nystar.com/tamarkin/review1.htm

I just want to make a comment about today's culture. Practice makes perfect, but it seems that young people nowadays aren't learning that it takes time to get better at something and that results don't come instantaneously. If you put in the time and effort, you will get better, but it will be gradual and relative to how much time you put in. Play and study 6 hours a day (like Magnus did as a child) and you'll be amazing in a few years. Play and study casually a few hours a week or month and it will take much longer -- like decades.

I think the media (including social media) are partially to blame for young people thinking success should come quickly and easily. I'll just give one recent example. A friend of mine brought her son over to play guitar with me. I was trying to teach him how to play 12-bar blues. He was so self-critical of his playing. He kept complaining he couldn't play like me. I asked him how long he'd been playing and he said a few months. Well I've been playing guitar 30 years. How does a 15-year old kid think that he can play guitar proficiently or on par after a few months? The poor kid was so self-critical that he wanted to give up or hide, and I had to keep encouraging him.

Look at anyone -- Magnus Carlsen, John Coltrane, Jimi Hendrix, etc etc -- and see how much time they practiced. We're talking tens of thousands of hours. They weren't always good. In fact, when they started, the sucked big time, just like us (I speak for myself). The difference is they put in the time and effort. 

I apologize for my rant. It's just an insight that I've been having recently.

I reckon that is part of the answer. Chess is a difficult game compared to the use of smartphones and other popular gadgets. But that is only part of the issue. The fact that you encouraged him to play on despite his initial upset is highly important and honorable. Many kids miss that in contemporary society and get lost in the dullness of passive consumerism. 

The desire to throw the game in the dustbin may be considered natural as a result of the emotional upset. GM Ivanchuk declared he'd never play chess again after a quick loss against GM Giri years ago. Of course the emotional upset dissipated, and he is still playing. 

A study a few years ago stated that goldfish have a longer attention span than humans.  FIDE wants to speed up chess, so it more "exciting" to the masses.  Bullet, and Blitz are popular.  I was responded to a post yesterday, where someone posted that they should have "unlimited" aborts" because they dont want to have to have to wait "A few seconds"

People complaining about having to wait for online tournaments to complete..."My opponent has been on vacation for..."  I wonder how these types would have survived postal chess back in the day when you wrote your move on a card, and put it in he mail, and waited...

It seems we have a society of "I want..." "I need..."  "I have to have it now!"  That along with a sense of entitlement.

Yo I cam here about not really chess I saw the form board for feel like quitting 

1. What do you do if you feel like quitting life

2. I’m trying to become a rapper but I can get started and kinda wanna quit

So far(after my year on this site)....This is the best thread going!! Why?  The folks here are in my boat(and I'm fairly serious,but not going to get too annoyed when I lose).....and...the people truly nice enough to give meaningful advice are chiming in with good input!!

I think we all feel like quitting or giving up at one point or another. The statement above about GM Ivanchuk saying he was going to quit after a difficult loss really strikes home. He's one of the best chess players in the world. It shows that we are all the same. We get frustrated and disappointed. 

But things change and feelings change. You might feel like quitting life now, because things are not so great, but things will change in your circumstances and even your mood. We have ups and downs -- it's part of being human. 

As a musician myself, I can say that becoming a rapper is the same as getting good at chess or anything else. You have to work at it and you have to want it. If you do, you'll get good. It's impossible not to. If you don't want it, then you can quit, of course. Life is all about what you want! But if you do want it, you have to believe in yourself 100% and apply yourself towards your goal, no matter what obstacles arise and no matter how long it takes.

Perfect response Zoomie......I play the guitar for a hobby and if I want to improve,it takes practice.In my youth I was a very,"very serious" tennis player.Early on I lost a good bit,but as I learned the game(and played a TON) I became an "A" level player(not a pro,though I was an instructor)....I only won one tournament,but I still have that trophy-

Yerba mate can help with your linguistic skills if you're trying to be an improvisational rapper you can come up with some dope rhymes with this medicinal drink you can also help keep you sharp at the chessboard so that's what I have to contribute yerba mate

I to play guitar and played for a few thousand hours before I said you know what this right have thing isn't working and I went to a left-handed guitar and instead of Melody I now Play Rhythm and I'm a wholly different player than before just different ideas different hemisphere of the brain it does take a lot of work to become confident that anything try cooking and you'll see how difficult that is to takes a long time to get the grasp of things and it's the repetition and constant effort of doing something everyday that makes all the difference you don't suddenly lift 500 pounds just because you want to it takes a lot of accumulation to reach that point

Quitting is it okay thing to take a rest from it at step back as with music the rests themselves are the music and in weightlifting the rest days are equally important as the lifting itself so stepping away from chess and letting the ideas simmer and settle can help your Consciousness achieve strength even when it seems that you are not working at it

Quitting is an ok thing. take a rest from it, step back as with music the rests themselves are the music and in weightlifting the rest days are equally important as the lifting itself so stepping away from chess and letting the ideas simmer and settle can help your Consciousness achieve strength even when it seems that you are not working at it

literally I was and is the same position you are in right now. I'd loose many games and I'd get frustrated, then I started reading books and studying on pawn formations and controlling center board. my advice is start playing chess in person, like bring your own board to family gatherings or to friendly gatherings, this way you can analyze your opponent in person not on a screen.