Feeling SO guilty beating my Dad

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ciedd

Hi guys, My dad and I have about the same rating, and I just recently beaten my him 3-0! Winning the first game made me feel really nice, but when I beat him in the second and third games, I felt REALLY REALLY bad and guilty! I even think that I feel a lot worse than my dad, even though I "crushed" him. Does anyone of you have the same experience? How am I supposed to deal with this? Please help.

bngl2

I played my father lately and beat him. I felt pretty horrible, but you need to realize that 1. It's a game that will not make a huge impact on their life if they win or lose (I'm sure they have other things to think about) 2. If you win fair and square, this is another lesson on your play and discovering Chess and how to win. But that's just my 2 cents.

peristiloperis

It's important not to feel discouraged if you find yourself surpassing your dad in certain areas. In fact, it's a testament to your own abilities and potential. Instead of feeling bad, recognize it as a sign of your growth and development. Your dad, as a parent, should ideally feel proud of your achievements and progress. It reflects positively on his role in nurturing and supporting you.

Even if your dad shows signs of frustration or disappointment, it's essential to understand that these feelings are natural and human. He may have had certain expectations or pride tied to his own abilities or role as a mentor. However, it's crucial to communicate with him and reassure him that his support and guidance have contributed to your success. This can help alleviate any tension and reinforce the bond between you.

Ultimately, moments of surpassing our parents are opportunities for celebration and mutual growth. They signify the passing of the torch and the continuation of progress within the family. Embrace these moments with gratitude and understanding, knowing that they contribute to your personal development and the strengthening of familial bonds.