Helping Frustrated Student!

GMPatzer

Hello I have a student that I teach, who is becoming visible frustrated that he can never win against me!

I don't just won't to let him and give him a false hope, I was think of give odds until can start winning sometimes and slowly decreasing the odds as he becomes better. I also let him know if he has made a bad move a let him try and figure out what I could play, and what he could have done to prevent it!

Just wondering what others have tried 

Thanks 

 

coleblakeman01

I usually don't play my students, if I do it's a one time thing. Tell your student his goal isn't to beat you and try working on tactics, openings, or something else while you have a lesson with him. For example my coach is a strong IM, I'd rather him teach me what he thinks I need to know rather than play him in games. I don't know the situation but if he beats himself over losing make sure he understands a loss is the greatest thing a learning chess player can face. 

IMBacon

Play time odds games. 

I have had students that like to play faster games, so i will give them 5 minutes to 4...3...2...1 for myself. 

When it comes to actual learning, and learning to accept losing?  Learning to lose gracefully is just as important.

Colby-Covington

Interesting. I thought people only took chess lessons from big GMs or known players, not small fry like us.

So you're teaching as you are learning yourself?

1_a31-0

Let him keep trying. My very first coach was an FM, and now I can beat him 2/5 times (he beats me the other 3/5) -- in blitz. 

Honestly, after a few attempts trying to beat him, (and failing miserably), I was pretty frustrated, but I really really wanted to win. That motivated me to study even harder and win happy.png I recently beat him in a 15+05 game grin.png

Colby-Covington

What's that FM's rating?

1_a31-0
Colby-Covington wrote:

What's that FM's rating?

otb? 2320+ FIDE

GMPatzer

These are highschool students with players ranging from 600 - 1000 in the city, I normally have them play each and try point things out afterwards, and setup 3 boards with basic puzzles, unfortunately some times that student has no one else and ask to play me. that's why I like odds piece and time good ideas, this he can see progress by reducing odds but he has to earn it😀👍

GMPatzer

a3 which Canadian FM I live Canada but was born in England

Hamidrm338
Hi everyone ... i have questions so many times i saw they hit my pawn when theirs pawn was beside of my pawn like my pawn was in e5 and his pawn was in d5 . How this happens?
IMBacon
Hamidrm338 wrote:
Hi everyone ... i have questions so many times i saw they hit my pawn when theirs pawn was beside of my pawn like my pawn was in e5 and his pawn was in d5 . How this happens?

En Passant

1_a31-0
GMPatzer wrote:

a3 which Canadian FM I live Canada but was born in England

sry, idk if he wants me to say or not....so I can't for the time being :/

GMPatzer

No prob a3 happy.png Thanks for everyone suggestions should help!

Colby-Covington
1_a31-0 wrote:
Colby-Covington wrote:

What's that FM's rating?

otb? 2320+ FIDE

You are regularly beating a Federal Master OTB rated 2300+?

Respect.

Do you play OTB yourself?

It's interesting how some people's game drops either OTB or online.

I kinda suck online and miss a lot of stuff because I'm still more comfortable playing on a board.

hisokaxhunter

let him join real tournament. he'll know why he is still at that level

CoffeeAnd420

The kid's normal. He wants to go outside and play like everyone else his age. 

Why is it important that he get good at Chess? I mean, it's NOT but ...why do you *think* it is? That's the real question here. Look in the mirror, my Friend.

1_a31-0
Colby-Covington wrote:
1_a31-0 wrote:
Colby-Covington wrote:

What's that FM's rating?

otb? 2320+ FIDE

You are regularly beating a Federal Master OTB rated 2300+?

Respect.

Do you play OTB yourself?

It's interesting how some people's game drops either OTB or online.

I kinda suck online and miss a lot of stuff because I'm still more comfortable playing on a board.

FIDE Master. And not regularly. I win around 2/5, and he wins 3/5. Honestly, I think its just that I've gotten used to his style and how to beat him.....not so much that I am actually a good chess player. 

I do play otb. I played for Canada at the world youth.......and miserably failed (but we don't talk about that last part grin.png)