You have to force him to train all the time. Reward him if he wins. Punish if he refuses to play. At some point he'll get so good that he'll start liking it no matter what
How can I get a 10 yo, who thinks chess is boring to play?
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Let them play chess and other games, have family nights and play chess then, if possible let them play on a video game version of chess. Or, just let them play whatever game they want, then make them play chess. Persuade them tell them that there school grades will go up, or that they will become famous, BUT do not put pressure on them.
Feb 1, 2021
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Typically you do it like with Kamsky... you make their childhood hell for the sake of a chess rating.
Then when they get older they move out and never talk to you again.
Feb 1, 2021
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Tonya_Harding wrote:
Here my personal experience, and I'm not saying anyone should do what I did: it alos depends on the type of relationship you have got with your kids.
I decided not to let my legacy go to waste, out of childish, hence immature tastes and decisions.
So, I told my kids (one by one), when they expressed bore or such about the Chess lessons and exercises I gave them: "Once you will have scored your first win in competition, my job will be done: you became a Chess player, and then you can chose to suit if you want".
One of them gave up, (not immediatly after their first win but soon enough), and the other went up to about 1400, then lost interrest, yet still will go (willingly) play for the Chess club team if asked for.
I'm satisfied with that. i could not just let things go to waste without a serious enough try, but never intended to make of my kids slave champions.
That seems reasonable to me.
Tonya_Harding wrote:
Here my personal experience, and I'm not saying anyone should do what I did: it alos depends on the type of relationship you have got with your kids.
I decided not to let my legacy go to waste, out of childish, hence immature tastes and decisions.
So, I told my kids (one by one), when they expressed bore or such about the Chess lessons and exercises I gave them: "Once you will have scored your first win in competition, my job will be done: you became a Chess player, and then you can chose to suit if you want".
One of them gave up, (not immediatly after their first win but soon enough), and the other went up to about 1400, then lost interrest, yet still will go (willingly) play for the Chess club team if asked for.
I'm satisfied with that. i could not just let things go to waste without a serious enough try, but never intended to make of my kids slave champions.
What a load of bulls*hit.
Chess is a childish game for children in the first place. You're acting like it's some great scientific endeavour - you would have done your children a better favour to have never exposed them to chess. I mean it's a good thing they saw sense when they did.
You don't want to let go of your "legacy" - your chess-playing legacy without giving it a good try? LoL who do you think you are Kasparov or someone?!
Feb 1, 2021
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Uhohspaghettio1 wrote:
Tonya_Harding wrote:
Here my personal experience, and I'm not saying anyone should do what I did: it alos depends on the type of relationship you have got with your kids.
I decided not to let my legacy go to waste, out of childish, hence immature tastes and decisions.
So, I told my kids (one by one), when they expressed bore or such about the Chess lessons and exercises I gave them: "Once you will have scored your first win in competition, my job will be done: you became a Chess player, and then you can chose to suit if you want".
One of them gave up, (not immediatly after their first win but soon enough), and the other went up to about 1400, then lost interrest, yet still will go (willingly) play for the Chess club team if asked for.
I'm satisfied with that. i could not just let things go to waste without a serious enough try, but never intended to make of my kids slave champions.
What a load of bulls*hit.
Chess is a childish game for children in the first place. You're acting like it's some great scientific endeavour - you would have done your children a better favour to have never exposed them to chess. I mean it's a good thing they saw sense when they did.
You don't want to let go of your "legacy" - your chess-playing legacy without giving it a good try? LoL who do you think you are Kasparov or someone?!
So she forced them to play a few tournaments... that's what? A few months of chess? Not a big deal.
llama47 wrote:
Uhohspaghettio1 wrote:
Tonya_Harding wrote:
Here my personal experience, and I'm not saying anyone should do what I did: it alos depends on the type of relationship you have got with your kids.
I decided not to let my legacy go to waste, out of childish, hence immature tastes and decisions.
So, I told my kids (one by one), when they expressed bore or such about the Chess lessons and exercises I gave them: "Once you will have scored your first win in competition, my job will be done: you became a Chess player, and then you can chose to suit if you want".
One of them gave up, (not immediatly after their first win but soon enough), and the other went up to about 1400, then lost interrest, yet still will go (willingly) play for the Chess club team if asked for.
I'm satisfied with that. i could not just let things go to waste without a serious enough try, but never intended to make of my kids slave champions.
What a load of bulls*hit.
Chess is a childish game for children in the first place. You're acting like it's some great scientific endeavour - you would have done your children a better favour to have never exposed them to chess. I mean it's a good thing they saw sense when they did.
You don't want to let go of your "legacy" - your chess-playing legacy without giving it a good try? LoL who do you think you are Kasparov or someone?!
So she forced them to play a few tournaments... that's what? A few months of chess? Not a big deal.
What makes you think it's a she? I would have sworn it's a he from the style of writing and general posting.
I would say forcing your kid to do anything is a big deal wouldn't you? School sure, but other things are very iffy. I don't think I was ever forced to do something not school-related. And frankly I'm glad that it turns out that those parents who do force their kids to do those things don't get the results they want. You're right in that compared to some other parents they're not so bad, but those other parents are guilty of child abuse.
Tonya_Harding wrote:
Uhohspaghettio1 a écrit :
What a load of bulls*hit.
Chess is a childish game for children in the first place. You're acting like it's some great scientific endeavour - you would have done your children a better favour to have never exposed them to chess. I mean it's a good thing they saw sense when they did.
You don't want to let go of your "legacy" - your chess-playing legacy without giving it a good try? LoL who do you think you are Kasparov or someone?!
"BS" is not the appropriate term, since it's not a thing to believe or not, it's a personal story and experience, everyone is free to disagree with my motives. I said my reasons, so you know my reasons, not so you nod and say "well done".
And I do see by your ratings, you have got no idea of what it takes to get where I am, especially if you knew where I'm coming from, which I won't tell, cos it's nunya.
A solid 2100 level at Chess, means you masterized the amateur level of Chess, and that's an achievement to me. If that's nothing to you, fine, I don't care, I don't need your appreciations on my life, and I don't care to know yours.
It is an appropriate term, you clearly don't understand.
Feb 1, 2021
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Uhohspaghettio1 wrote:
llama47 wrote:
Uhohspaghettio1 wrote:
Tonya_Harding wrote:
Here my personal experience, and I'm not saying anyone should do what I did: it alos depends on the type of relationship you have got with your kids.
I decided not to let my legacy go to waste, out of childish, hence immature tastes and decisions.
So, I told my kids (one by one), when they expressed bore or such about the Chess lessons and exercises I gave them: "Once you will have scored your first win in competition, my job will be done: you became a Chess player, and then you can chose to suit if you want".
One of them gave up, (not immediatly after their first win but soon enough), and the other went up to about 1400, then lost interrest, yet still will go (willingly) play for the Chess club team if asked for.
I'm satisfied with that. i could not just let things go to waste without a serious enough try, but never intended to make of my kids slave champions.
What a load of bulls*hit.
Chess is a childish game for children in the first place. You're acting like it's some great scientific endeavour - you would have done your children a better favour to have never exposed them to chess. I mean it's a good thing they saw sense when they did.
You don't want to let go of your "legacy" - your chess-playing legacy without giving it a good try? LoL who do you think you are Kasparov or someone?!
So she forced them to play a few tournaments... that's what? A few months of chess? Not a big deal.
What makes you think it's a she? I would have sworn it's a he from the style of writing and general posting.
I would say forcing your kid to do anything is a big deal wouldn't you? School sure, but other things are very iffy. I don't think I was ever forced to do something not school-related. And frankly I'm glad that it turns out that those parents who do force their kids to do those things don't get the results they want. You're right in that compared to some other parents they're not so bad, but those other parents are guilty of child abuse.
Yeah, maybe a guy. I sometimes say "she" without thinking just because of a person's profile picture.
My parents never forced me to do something, but I think sometimes kids need encouragement to try things and not give them up. I think if my parents had made it fun... something like saying this summer when you're out of school we're going to spend a few hours a week doing chess (or anything, art, exercise, amateur radio... reading books lol, just anything) I think I would have enjoyed it.
Feb 1, 2021
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#31
Tonya_Harding wrote:
And you're clearly an infatuated bottomhole.
Thread unfollowed.
The Spaghetts seems to have a way with the ladies.
How to force his 10 year old son to play chess as per the title