How to cope with losses and loss streaks if I literally rage at every game I lose

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Ivan4ick_2023

I get really mad when I lose and can't do anything, every loss makes me want to quit chess not even talking about loss streaks.

bigD521

Go old school? Every time you get mad, write the following 50 times. If fifty times doesn't do it, try 100.

Playing with a rating helps me to get an even match. When evenly matched, I should win/ lose games fairly equally. Since this makes sense, it is pointless to get really mad when I lose. I will do my best to get my feelings under control since getting mad is of no help.

Best wishes

Ivan4ick_2023
bigD521 wrote:

Go old school? Every time you get mad, write the following 50 times. If fifty times doesn't do it, try 100.

Playing with a rating helps me to get an even match. When evenly matched, I should win/ lose games fairly equally. Since this makes sense, it is pointless to get really mad when I lose. I will do my best to get my feelings under control since getting mad is of no help.

Best wishes

Thank you very much for your advice! I will try to do this when I get mad, I will also try to learn from my mistakes which caused me to lose. Thank you again g

studiocorax
If you analyze and learn from the lost game, it becomes a cause for improving… problem solved.
Ivan4ick_2023
studiocorax wrote:
If you analyze and learn from the lost game, it becomes a cause for improving… problem solved.

true, although sometimes I dont really make mistakes and my opponent just literally outplays me

marqumax

Playing with a rating helps me to get an even match. When evenly matched, I should win/ lose games fairly equally. Since this makes sense, it is pointless to get really mad when I lose. I will do my best to get my feelings under control since getting mad is of no help.
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ryanovster

Dont worry about every single game, just keep playing through it forget the last game and move on to the next, take your time and relax, most people lose games they shoudlnt be losing when they have 9 mins left on a 10 min game for example, look for all possible threats, checks and sneaky moves you and your opponent can do, after a while your brain tricks you also to do it faster. Trust me there are bigger problems in the world than losing a chess game, chess after all, isnt THAT important to get mad at, talk to your opponent too, most on here are nice (unlike arrogant prix like me) lol......trust me they want you to improve as well...we are all one here.

ChessMasteryOfficial

Embrace it. You can see that even Magnus, Hikaru, and other strong players haven't eliminated rage after losing a game.

Ivan4ick_2023
ChessMasteryOfficial wrote:

Embrace it. You can see that even Magnus, Hikaru, and other strong players haven't eliminated rage after losing a game.

ty but I am just quitting this game

fed up

Iamhaveskillissue

Even though losing chess is frustrating, remember it has really good effects on your brain, like problem solving and many critical thinking skills. If you lose, so what? Just go back into the next one,

Ivan4ick_2023
 Iamhaveskillissue wrote:

Even though losing chess is frustrating, remember it has really good effects on your brain, like problem solving and many critical thinking skills. If you lose, so what? Just go back into the next one,

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Iamhaveskillissue

Do what you like, but I highly recommend persevering with the game for a little longer. If you keep on losing, then quit it. But study the game, read books and try and calm yourself if you lose. Best wishes

Cobra2721
Ivan4ick_2023 wrote:
studiocorax wrote:
If you analyze and learn from the lost game, it becomes a cause for improving… problem solved.

true, although sometimes I dont really make mistakes and my opponent just literally outplays me

I can tell from your rating, you always blunder pieces

Cobra2721

You have the wrong mindset. I have wanted to quit before, but perceviered. When I was 1700, I lost a tournament because of a terrible arbiter. I was so mad. But I kept going, and I wanted to destroy my opponent next game we played.

gunsandchess
I use to feel like that but just play for fun now to just pass the time. I think after I tilted a few times bouncing between 1800-2000 rating range, I just accepted that I’m a decent player and nothing more.

Plus I don’t study the game at all to even hold myself to high standard so that helps with letting go of any negative emotion.
Ivan4ick_2023
cogadhtintreach wrote:

You have the wrong mindset. I have wanted to quit before, but perceviered. When I was 1700, I lost a tournament because of a terrible arbiter. I was so mad. But I kept going, and I wanted to destroy my opponent next game we played.

u were 1700 while im barely holding 700

Cobra2721
gunsandchess wrote:
I use to feel like that but just play for fun now to just pass the time. I think after I tilted a few times bouncing between 1800-2000 rating range, I just accepted that I’m a decent player and nothing more.
Plus I don’t study the game at all to even hold myself to high standard so that helps with letting go of any negative emotion.

Lies, you have never gone past 1500. Dont lie about your rating when everybody can see it with one click

Whiggi
cogadhtintreach wrote:
gunsandchess wrote:
I use to feel like that but just play for fun now to just pass the time. I think after I tilted a few times bouncing between 1800-2000 rating range, I just accepted that I’m a decent player and nothing more.
Plus I don’t study the game at all to even hold myself to high standard so that helps with letting go of any negative emotion.

Lies, you have never gone past 1500. Dont lie about your rating when everybody can see it with one click

He's clearly 2000

Cobra2721
Whiggi wrote:
cogadhtintreach wrote:
gunsandchess wrote:
I use to feel like that but just play for fun now to just pass the time. I think after I tilted a few times bouncing between 1800-2000 rating range, I just accepted that I’m a decent player and nothing more.
Plus I don’t study the game at all to even hold myself to high standard so that helps with letting go of any negative emotion.

Lies, you have never gone past 1500. Dont lie about your rating when everybody can see it with one click

He's clearly 2000

check bro

newlyomanmenar
@Ivan4ick_2023 quit chess for real so you don’t get mad anymore.