I am losing touch with my son because of chess

Destiny

I am a single father teaching my 9 year old son chess. Two weeks ago I searched on YouTube for "chess grandmaster lecture" or something like that and I saved a playlist of this guy named Ben Finegold and told my son to watch them. 

Now this weekend I had some free time with my son, we played a couple of games and he kept being sassy with me, roaring, or making the sound of an explosion when playing c4. He got me with an opening trap and got very rude for no reason, saying "checkmate with advantage" and the truth hurts over and over again and constantly talk over me too. 

I checked his YouTube history and saw that his behavior was encouraged by this Benjamin fellow. I understand he is trying to be funny for his sad little class but now I had to be the bad guy and take away his tablet. I thought he'd cry but he just said something about being suspicious and buying a book to cry like a grandmaster, don't know what that means. What am I supposed to do? 

ziplinekitkat

your kid, your problem

Monie49
Grow a pair
ziplinekitkat

;-)

mgx9600

Perhaps teaching your son chess isn't the right thing for you to do together. I find 9 yr olds to be very energetic and generally love outdoors type adventures.

Try taking him on a hike or even a city tour on foot; then repeat the routes but tell him the game is to do it quicker while increasing the distance a little each time.  Before you know it, he'll be loving the hikes.

 

mgx9600
Monie49 wrote:
Grow a pair

 

It isn't PC (or even legal) to hit kids these days... that's why we hear so many parenting and problem children isuses.  In the good old days, a good spanking would have cured his son quickly and effectively.

 

krikorian12
mgx9600 wrote:
Monie49 wrote:
Grow a pair

 

It isn't PC (or even legal) to hit kids these days... that's why we hear so many parenting and problem children isuses.  In the good old days, a good spanking would have cured his son quickly and effectively.

 

People who have to resort to hitting their kids are morons. Truth hurts.

mgx9600
krikorian12 wrote:
mgx9600 wrote:
Monie49 wrote:
Grow a pair

 

It isn't PC (or even legal) to hit kids these days... that's why we hear so many parenting and problem children isuses.  In the good old days, a good spanking would have cured his son quickly and effectively.

 

People who have to resort to hitting their kids are morons. Truth hurts.

 

Not all change is good. <-- This statement is truthful, unlike yours.

 

krikorian12
mgx9600 wrote:
krikorian12 wrote:
mgx9600 wrote:
Monie49 wrote:
Grow a pair

 

It isn't PC (or even legal) to hit kids these days... that's why we hear so many parenting and problem children isuses.  In the good old days, a good spanking would have cured his son quickly and effectively.

 

People who have to resort to hitting their kids are morons. Truth hurts.

 

Not all change is good. <-- This statement is truthful, unlike yours.

 

You have the argumentative skills of a 5 year old. Maybe I should beat you, that will fix it.

kindaspongey
NonSequitur7 wrote:

... I saved a playlist of this guy named Ben Finegold and told my son to watch them. 

Now this weekend I had some free time with my son, we played a couple of games and he kept being sassy with me, roaring, or making the sound of an explosion when playing c4. He got me with an opening trap and got very rude for no reason, saying "checkmate with advantage" and the truth hurts over and over again and constantly talk over me too. 

I checked his YouTube history and saw that his behavior was encouraged by this Benjamin fellow. I understand he is trying to be funny for his sad little class but now I had to be the bad guy and take away his tablet. I thought he'd cry but he just said something about being suspicious and buying a book to cry like a grandmaster, don't know what that means. What am I supposed to do? 

I think it is a common problem that children imitate what they have seen. Maybe it would be a good idea to return the tablet and discuss the imitation problem.

llamonade
ghost_of_pushwood wrote:

Maybe we should give both you clowns a couple whiffle bats and let you beat each other's brains out off to the side somewhere.

First to have his rainbow clown wig fall off loses.

llamonade

And they'll play it at 150% speed with benny hill in the background.

MickinMD
krikorian12 wrote:
mgx9600 wrote:
Monie49 wrote:
Grow a pair

 

It isn't PC (or even legal) to hit kids these days... that's why we hear so many parenting and problem children isuses.  In the good old days, a good spanking would have cured his son quickly and effectively.

 

People who have to resort to hitting their kids are morons. Truth hurts.

And yet child behavior today is awful compared to past generations. I don't think we've figured out the truth about spanking. The kids in our household were not spanked and came out behaving well, but I still think the jury is out.  To assume you know better is the same mentality as those who swear by "Spare the rod, spoil the child."

MaxLange-simulator

Wait, is this the same guy who keeps coming back and posts stuffs like "my wife is leaving because I play chess a lot"

krikorian12
ghost_of_pushwood wrote:

Maybe we should give both you clowns a couple whiffle bats and let you beat each other's brains out off to the side somewhere.

It's pretty obvious I was joking. It should also be pretty obvious that the OP is trolling. It should also be obvious that advocating for child abuse is stupid and should be pointed out as such.

chesspawn11
krikorian12 wrote:
ghost_of_pushwood wrote:

Maybe we should give both you clowns a couple whiffle bats and let you beat each other's brains out off to the side somewhere.

It's pretty obvious I was joking. It should also be pretty obvious that the OP is trolling. It should also be obvious that advocating for child abuse is stupid and should be pointed out as such.

 

krikorian12
MickinMD wrote:
krikorian12 wrote:
mgx9600 wrote:
Monie49 wrote:
Grow a pair

 

It isn't PC (or even legal) to hit kids these days... that's why we hear so many parenting and problem children isuses.  In the good old days, a good spanking would have cured his son quickly and effectively.

 

People who have to resort to hitting their kids are morons. Truth hurts.

And yet child behavior today is awful compared to past generations. I don't think we've figured out the truth about spanking. The kids in our household were not spanked and came out behaving well, but I still think the jury is out.  To assume you know better is the same mentality as those who swear by "Spare the rod, spoil the child."

Yeah lets ignore the countless studies showing the harmful effects of hitting children. Your subjective assessment of "children are worse behaved today'" means nothing. Even if your assessment of current child behavior was true, there are so many other factors that can influence the behavior of children (you know like the internet, and countless other things) that simply saying 'we hit kids back then and they acted better' is ridiculous.

MickinMD

Can I ask why it bothered you when your 9 year old crowed about winning?

We have an 11 year-old in our extended family and there are times when he gets a little carried away when he does well in games against me (Monopoly, soccer, etc.) but I'm glad to see him excel so it doesn't bother me.  It he gets TOO carried away, it's enough to tell him to calm down and he does.  That may be something you could work on with your son.

I would NOT take away his access to chess, etc. as a punishment. That's retarding his advancement.

krikorian12
MickinMD wrote:

Can I ask why it bothered you when your 9 year old crowed about winning?

We have an 11 year-old in our extended family and there are times when he gets a little carried away when he does well in games against me (Monopoly, soccer, etc.) but I'm glad to see him excel so it doesn't bother me.  It he gets TOO carried away, it's enough to tell him to calm down and he does.  That may be something you could work on with your son.

I would NOT take away his access to chess, etc. as a punishment. That's retarding his advancement.

It's a joke post. don't waste your time.

mgx9600
krikorian12 wrote:
mgx9600 wrote:
krikorian12 wrote:
mgx9600 wrote:
Monie49 wrote:
Grow a pair

 

It isn't PC (or even legal) to hit kids these days... that's why we hear so many parenting and problem children isuses.  In the good old days, a good spanking would have cured his son quickly and effectively.

 

People who have to resort to hitting their kids are morons. Truth hurts.

 

Not all change is good. <-- This statement is truthful, unlike yours.

 

You have the argumentative skills of a 5 year old. Maybe I should beat you, that will fix it.

 

I posted a truthful fact and you hold your own unprovable opinions as truths.  It is pretty obvious who's lacking in adult thinking.

Additionally, you want to beat a fellow forum member when it'll not contribute to the debate just sound way off the deep end.  Perhaps you were beaten and abused as a child... and I wouldn't doubt that it's affected you negatively based on what I read here, BUT that doesn't mean all spanking is bad.

think about it.