In this position which is the best option?

So you seem to understand that consulting an engine even to look at a position that has been "moved past" is cheating, but somehow miss that asking for advice before the game is over is cheating just the same? So if somebody consults an engine to give their advice it's ok because they did it, not you?
I don't doubt that you aren't seeking to gain an unfair advantage and so it doesn't feel like cheating to you, but it is. No honorable player would discuss your game while it is still in progress. Once the game is over, it's an interesting position that would be fine to discuss at length.