Is "gg" too much to ask?

Watch for the guys who like to compliment your game at a critical point in the game.  My theory is that they are trying to deflect your attention from something they're hoping you've missed. 

I was talking to somebody rated much higher than me once.  I was down a bishop with just a rook on an open file.  They had an undeveloped bishop and undeveloped rook.  I should have placed my rook on the back file to prevent their bishop from developing.  They pointed it out to me, so it isnt always true if you are just having a friendly game.

there are some idiots on this site,i always say gg game or well done after if they beat me.it just manners.i think some people were not told this when they were young :)

lol, I have some days ago posted some like this!

http://www.chess.com/forum/view/general/is-quotggquot-too-much-to-ask

what's a 'gg'? I always type 'thanks for the game' even if it uses up a whole 5 seconds...

Yeah, but I noted that people allways when wins says "gg" or good game, lol

Yes, it is too much to ask.  There's no reason to expect manners or courtesy.  If you don't like how someone plays, don't play them again.  Personally, I hate it after I win a game when a player says something like, "Move X is what lost it for me."  I'm all for doing a post-mortem whether I win or lose, but whenever a player makes a comment like that I can't help but to think: Ok, great, I hang pieces too, but a chess game (especially at my level) is won or lost with consistent play.

But, while I feel that comment is dismissive, it's by no means something I should expect not to have to deal with.  I'll simply not have a game with those players again, and I'll enjoy myself a lot more.

If you say good game after every game what do you say when you actually want to tell your opponent you thought it was a good game?  Isn't it kind of disingenuous if you just hand it out like candy on Halloween?  I prefer "Thanks for the game" and tend to reserve "Good game" for when it actually was one but I also don't get too worked up when my opponent fails to say either.  Maybe they're simply too busy (I've played opponents with hundres of ongoing games), don't speak english or have a different cultural convention (this is an international site after all).

I usually say gg or something nice at the end (if my opponent has been a good sportsman) but I confess that I don't always, sometimes I just don't, not for any reason. One of the reasons I play internet chess is so I don't have to talk to anyone, and sometimes I just forget or don't feel like it. Does that make me evil?

 well.....yes, but you're American so that's ok!!  just kidding mate!

hahahahaha

i dont you should have to say it every game but if somone messages me with a good game i find it rude not to say it back if they took the time to say it themselves,i find every game of chess a good game becuase i either win or lose and if i lose i have a chance to try and learn from my mistakes

I must confess that I occasionally make no reply after a game, and just close the window.  I feel bad when I do that.  I try to come up with something to say besides "gg" or "good game".  I play mostly 5 minute games, so I don't feel quite as bad about just closing the window.  When playing longer games, I always say something.

Well, there was one exception.  Once, I was playing someone who was trash talking during a game.  I had a good position, but my clock was almost out.  He had a chance to force a draw, but he didn't take it, and said, "Now your clock expires, loser."  As I got down to 10 seconds, he typed "tick tock".  Unfortunately for him, I had two unstoppable passed pawns, and we were playing with a 10 second bonus per move.  By the time checkmate came, I had two minutes left on my clock.  I closed the window without comment.

It hasn't gotten worse. You just started caring more. Separate your ego from two little letters. If they don't type it it might reflect poorly on them, but if you are freaking out about it or putting your nose in the air and sniffing about how the world is going downhill because you were slighted in an online chess game, then it refects more poorly on you.

An adult once told me he was gonna kill me after I coughed in OTB and he just so happened to lose.

 I am sorry but your theory is not correct. When someone sets a very nice trap or fork or something like that ,I sometimes chat: good trick, well done,
Its absolutely not about deflecting their attention but just to give them a compliment.

Just a old geezer's opinion!

However, I'll usually, but not always, comment favorably after a game.  Sometimes I even send a trophy.  That's because I find playing a game infinitely better than not playing one.  So, it's easy to really mean good game unless someone has been insufferably rude.

I believe that part of the problem is lack of OTB [particularly tourney] experience on the part of those players.  Except for the very rare exception, in over 50 years of playing OTB, whether formal USCF rated, on teams or just skittles in a coffee shop, bar or park, I can only think of once that there wasn't a cordial greeting or handshake at the beginning and end of the game. 

But, when I was learning back in the mists of time in the 1950's, manners were taught as part of the game.  Some folks now hiding behind a computer screen forget that it was once called [And, this is with all due deference to the ladies who have, indeed, made it much more difficult to concentrate OTB.] a "gentlemen's game" and we behaved that way.   There were even some clubs where, for those over school age, jacket and/or jacket and  tie were expected for tournaments.  Not necessarily required but expected.  That sense of decorum has, unfortunately been lost.  Although, I don't miss the ties.

Rude behavior, when I was much younger and playing OTB regularly, at organized events could get you disqualified and escorted to the door along with your hat, coat, clock, set and no refund of any entry fee.

And, so it goes.

Best Regards,

John F.

  HELLO   JPF917

U ARE RIGHT FEEL THE SAME

LETS PLAY

I have been thinking the same thing... is it so hard? Or better yet, when they don't even acknowledge a greeting. I saw "Hi" a alot, or just a general introduction. I mean, is it so hard to just say "hi" back? No formal dialogue is needed, though I am open to it, but at least respond.

The GG is also equally perturbing. I dont know, I guess some people are just sore losers. But even if I lose, and they genuinely played well, and I was at a loss all game, I tell them that they played really well. Nothing. Oh well, at least it seems to lie mainly with players from certain nationalities...aherm..americans..cough. Just joking! *but not really*

Actually, the reason that I find much more americans rude than anyone else is probably because the sheer amount of americans playing...probably..

i always tend to say "gg" at the end of my games