Losers remorse

You sound like chess conflicts with your personality. Getting all worked up over a loss doesn't mean you care more about the game than most people. It only means you and chess don't mix. It's like mixing fried bananas with dynamite. Find another hobby.

So when you win, do you feel like spitting in your opponent's face?

Seriously though, you need to try to get over this emotion, it's not healthy. Everyone loses his share of games, it's part of chess (and life).

Do lots of tactics, select a handful of openings and play only those so you are in familiar territory more often. Study GM games featuring those openings to get an idea of middle game plans. Most of your games are blitz, that is not the way to improve. Start playing 30 minute games. I know I know blitz is fun blah blah blah but it really does kill your chess ideas. I've been playing to much blitz myself lately and it shows in my longer games.

I think the sting of losing is usually that when I do I realize it is my own dumb fault; that I gave the opponent an opportunity to win.

this is particularly true when I lose to some Sudden blunder.  BUT.  it happens to all of us.

this is why I can be so pleasant and chillax to my opponent, I feel like I am playing against my own duncy moves and blunders- and not so much against some Evil russian dude trying to pound me in the carpet.

but, nevertheless, losing IS part of chess... it is a great way to learn- since its clearly relevant to your thinking process/skill- and its a Pause, from greater chess victories.

in short, you must embrace the loss- find opponents who can beat you up- and try to learn what they Know.

Jason

Play against chess engines. After losing 50 in a row despite your best efforts, play against humans again. You will be surprised how much you improved.

Find some habits that are healthier for you. It's just a game. Release some tension elsewhere, baby. 

I suggest you master Mastermind game. Then return to chess.

well, let me just suggest that plenty have people have "patiently tolerated" losing in the quest of winning.

Gary Kasparov was well known to be REALLY driven to win.

not liking losing Isn't really a problem.  its letting it drive you away from the game- that is the problem.

I don't Know what you expect as far as help.  but surely we all prefer to win- and those that don't- don't improve very fast.

Regarding the advice to play (and lose) against chess engines constantly.  I don't recommend, and when I DO play a computer I set the level down, to the point at which I MIGHT win.  there's not point in playing a silicon beast SO strong that (compared to you) he has no weakness.

Instead, perhaps you ought to go the other way. perhaps you ought to play much weaker players.  

this is for sure. if you give up chess weeks or months at a time.  your not going to very far in chess. it takes commitment and dedication to improve.

When playing against silicon giants at maximum strengtn, its callef isometrics training.

maybe not a "standard question" but it is typical problem.

I've met MANY competitive and talented chessplayers that found losing so frustrating that they rarely if ever play....

its kind of sad, actually.  "you can't win if you won't lose"

--I'm not quite sure what to make with the last words, but If you habitually leave a chess game hanging bc you blunder a peice.  Please don't do that. its horribly rude.  once you done playing- resign nicely and let your opponent spend his time productively...

Good for you.