I have no expectations of a conversation, or even a hello or gl or whatever. I, myself, on the other hand, start every game with gl for good luck and end every game with handshake. These are the very same words I used in OTB chess for the 300+ rated games I've played.
Manners cost Nothing.
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Like in this world, some people are really rude and crude here too. The best option is to take it in your stride and move on.
I tolly agree with u 100% and peopel should tak when playing and get to now the person and that might help with the game and lighen the tone of the game
and for people that are to stuk up to talk r being rued and have righ to play if ur not going to talk then u should go and find more stuk up to people to play with not us non stuk up people
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#25
i dont mind talking to people, but really both saying hi is just pointless unless your actually going to say something else!
I always try to reply to hello, and give a "gg" at the end. Sometimes, people type things in the middle, and I miss it, as I am making moves in 20+ games at a time, and just don't always notice that there is text in the chat box.
The only time I ever deliberately ignore people is when they try to do postmortems while the game is still going on, pointing out things I missed and whatnot. Stuff like "you could have taken my g pawn with the bishop." Shut up, you play your pieces, I'll play mine!
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Laughingknight wrote:
lilybetrice wrote:
ASpieboy wrote:
Maybe some people just like to focus on the game.
There is a chess game there in case you didn't notice.
it's ok not to want to talk, but if you were face to face with somebody and you said "hello" to them how would you react if they blatently ignored you?
Is that ok?
But your not face to face are you?
I disagree, Being online with a person(partictulaly in the context of Chess.com) in my opinion can be considered as being "face to face." Although, granted not in the literal sense of the expression. Me thinks your being a smart Ar** : ^ )
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joshgregory7 wrote:
in live chess i don't talk anymore because i cant see me chat window. my point is don't immeaditly assume that somebody who doesnt say "hi" is being rude.
But they are, because it is!
What if they're blind and can't read?
RainbowRising wrote:
rich34788 wrote:
What if they're blind and can't read?
If they are blind they couldn't be playing internet chess on this site.
If they can't read I doubt they could play chess either.
I am amazed anyone bothered replying to that. I'm not amazed that it was you...
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#31
i pick and choose my spots. i think if someone says "hi" youshould say "hi" back. what's the harm. as far as chatting--sometimes i like to, mostly i don't. i have met some prety cool people on this site and that's nice. really though, i just want to beat people at chess.
To me, chatting during a game is usually a distraction. A "hello" means nothing anyway, other than "I am friendly". Who cares. I come here to play. This is not a bar, and I don't come here to socialize. I come here to practice. It is nothing personal, so stop taking it that way! If it hurts someone's feelings that I "blank" them, then I assume they are emotionally unstable
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ryannbfc wrote:
I agree with Lily. It's rude not to greet your opponent. Hi, Hola, bonjour, whatever language.
It's also polite to say "good game" at the end. (which doesn't really mean "good" game, it's just good sportsmanship)
It isn't rude to not greet someone. It is rude to expect someone else to greet you
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#34
What I hate is when high ranked people underestimate you, play sloppy and then accuse you of cheating. That's bad manner!
I love to have a little chat during the game. It's very nice when you get good tips and trix for future games etc.
Keep your cool lily. You have to face it, chess players loves to think rather than chatting.
If someone greets me hello, I always return the gesture and normally wish the person a good game, this I believe as does Lily is good manners. I always used to start games with a hello and found many people didn't respond which I also seen as impolite. Now I let them speak first and if they do then I will reply. I feel I have to add though that some people would do much better for all if they kept their words to themselves (Laughingknite). Those comments were uncalled for!
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eval wrote:
If someone greets me hello, I always return the gesture and normally wish the person a good game, this I believe as does Lily is good manners. I always used to start games with a hello and found many people didn't respond which I also seen as impolite. Now I let them speak first and if they do then I will reply. I feel I have to add though that some people would do much better for all if they kept their words to themselves (Laughingknite). Those comments were uncalled for!
I think that is a good attitude to have...
I must admit that I for the most part used to say gl and gg.
But, as I played more it seemed some people saw that as me wanting to have a big conversation with them. If I don't say anything then I don't have to start a conversation(which I likely don't want if I am playing a game)
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PeterNorth wrote:
To me, chatting during a game is usually a distraction. A "hello" means nothing anyway, other than "I am friendly". Who cares. I come here to play. This is not a bar, and I don't come here to socialize. I come here to practice. It is nothing personal, so stop taking it that way! If it hurts someone's feelings that I "blank" them, then I assume they are emotionally unstable
Ah Peter, would you like a hug? Or how about a hotwater bottle? You could lay it on your chest... it may melt that icy heart of yours LOL!
I agree that not responding at all is rude. Game or no game, people should acknowledge one another. In an OTB game anyone would at least speak.
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paul211 wrote:
Around the world today, almost everyone becomes indifferent to the people surrending them. Fear of a somekind of sexual maniac or a repressive person or an addict looking for money or perhaps simply the drive to go to work and finish the day's work.
What a sad world we are in today. In 1965 the world population was about 2.5 billion people and eveyone said , when crossing a person on the street, either hello how are you today? or simply gave a smile which lightened up the other person`s face man or woman.
With the population being over 6.5 billion people today, eveyone is suspicious of even their neighbours, makes sense as there are statiscally more crazy people on the block.
It is not only polite to answer : "how are you today" or "welcome to our game and the best to you", but it also show that a person is civilized. and if the responder does not wish to continue conversation all they have to do is say I want to concentrate on my game and do not wish to converse.
How sad as we can take several days to answer the move and only one minute to converse.
This is the new world with educated people, afraid of encounters, devoid of human compassion and leaving to the next one to make a move.
Manners are not taught today, whether it be table manners, look at your children's kids, my own experience, or look at social manners.
We do have a long way to go to understand that we all are humans and should communicate.
Bravo!!
in live chess i don't talk anymore because i cant see me chat window. my point is don't immeaditly assume that somebody who doesnt say "hi" is being rude.