When you understand women, then you will also understand chess. Keep me updated on your progress. As to your question "Do you mean that literally or just in relationships?" The answer is "yes."
You sound like a wise zen master
@nameno1had I know exactly what you mean and I'm not even married, and if you said the same thing to her"you knew how I was when you married me" she would probably be resentful of you saying that, but it's ok for her to say. women always want to take control, but as a man we are expected to take control, and if we didn't the woman would not respect us. I hope it doesn't take me as long to get better at chess as it will for me to understand what women want. An old friend of mine said something to me I'll never forget. He said
"you can satisfy a woman...........for about two seconds." still makes me laugh
do you mean that literally or are you talking about relationships? because all women seem to want a man that takes charge, but then they want us to act sensitive and caring. That's what confuses me the most about women, why do they act like they want to date a wimp and then turn around and need a strong man. I'll tell you why, they don't know what they really want, they only know what they want at a particular moment. Therefore, in order to satisfy a women you must be one or the other at any given time, or both at once. either way, it gets too exausting to play that game for too long, I'd rather just get into an arguement for not being what she wants me to be and then pretend to apologize afterward.
For me this is simply explained by the idea that, we all want want we want, and when and how we want it. My wife and I go around about double standards. She insists I have them and I ask what they are, I get no specific response. When I point out hers, she replies," you knew how I was when you married me". I tell her its no excuse and she says she doesn't care...