I generally try to have a discussion beyond hello. I almost always tell my opponent thanks for the game usually by messaging them because I can't use the little chat box, since the game is over and they are no longer looking at the box. I have even had discussions with people from other countries that have a limited knowledge of our difficult english language. I think that probably what has been suggested by others is that those that chose to play a high number of games don't have discussions beyond simple normal usual beginning games hellos and have a good game. The reason I am able to talk to people is I limit my games to a very small manageable amount. I find it is a way to a make friends.
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Aug 4, 2008
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Tijaro wrote:
You can't force someone to have a conversation with you - but greeting your opponent and concluding a match with "good game" is good, proper chess etiquette. When someone does neither in a match, it's generally regarded as a show of poor sportsmanship. It doesn't take much effort to be cordial - take the time to say hello and commend your opponent on a good game. After all, one of the primary purposes of playing chess online is to meet with other people. If you don't like that, then play by yourself against a computer.
Here, here!!!
Anyways, if you have done your part by greeting someone...or congratulating him/her on a good game, you've done your part. Who cares whether or not they reply back. To each his own...doesn't hurt my feelings any because I don't know them anyway.
As a personal preference, I choose not to chat during live games until the game is over. I'll try to send out a short greeting at the beginning; but, chatting during the game serves as a distraction to me because not only am I having to concentrate on the game itself, but to communicate & strategize...unh, unh!!! Correspondence games is another story however.
People can't be overly sensitive about such things. This is the way of the world!.
Cheers!!! 
~The Doctor
i agree jedi
Aug 4, 2008
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#85
'good luck!' has always struck me as an odd thing to say - in a game of skill where no 'luck' is involved.
i think u can say good luck ... because if ur opponent makes a vital mistake ... then it is luck dont u think?
AHHHHHH.... SHUT UP !!! ...just kidding.
Seriouly now, it's like this ...."Hello" ...."Hi", make your move. Next page appears,,,"how old are you"..."I'm 14 from the phillapines"...flip the page.."How about those Dodgers"...unanswered from 3 days ago. I can't tell if I'm talking to a bot or not at times which makes it hard for me to engage in any conversations. I also tend to like to blitz through a lot of games which prevents me from chatting a lot anyway. The slamming you shut crap is pretty rude. Say good game..If they get offended after losing it still makes THEM the poor sport and not you.
I started a forum to this effect a few months ago, and there may have been others, too. It is not rude to not initiate a conversation, say with "hello" or "good game". However, it is certainly rude to not reply when your opponent does so. And yet it happens all the time.
well... some people may just want 2 get on with the games that they have its totally up to them
I'm not bothered by chatty players or ones who say nothing. I will certainly respond to chats during games, but I rarely initiate conversation for the same reasons others have mentioned--that it might be seen as a distraction.
I don't even get too upset with trash talking. Thankfully not nearly as much of that goes on here as on Yahoo chess (blecch!), but the nice thing about chess is that boasting accomplishes nothing, especially after people like this are silenced by a checkmate.
There are times when I would prefer that people say nothing. While I don't think any rudeness is (usually) intended, saying "Good luck" before a game of pure skill like chess rubs me the wrong way, suggesting that luck is the only way to beat the luck-wisher. A lot of people don't seem to know that it's better etiquette to say "good game" at the beginning of a game instead, as well as--obviously--at the end.
Not so sure there is no luck involved- among the intermediate or median players there is (IPS0 FACTO) no very profound knowledge of the game. So there is a CHANCE you may hit on a brilliant manoeuvre and be lucky to have done so- equally the Chance brilliance may go to your opponent's account and you get clobbered.Over a period , fortunately , the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune should even out for both - but you may be unlucky in duration of the periods! Still we are very very lucky to have access to this increasingly brilliant site;and that is beyond contradiction in any terms.
yep ... true
The English are lucky in being increasingly a world language together with American (!) ,French(diplomatic historically), Spanish and Mandarin.Aided by inputs from Scottish, Irish , Welsh and Vikings and the rest of the world. Little hope ,despite its name ,for Esperanto unless China might take it up as an other general world language- on face saving principles and to simplify alphabetical problems for themselves and others. That would help the chatterboxes !
rousseausp wrote:
Just wanted to rant a little about players who never say "good game" or "thanks for playing" or just a plain hello, or have a good one. I don't know, there is something a little unsportsmanlike to just close a window in someone's face without a second's hesitation. I find internet chess is notorious for that... I hoped chess.com would be a little different, and it is a lot more friendly than most sites, but it still happens a lot. How about not letting it become that way ? Cheers, have a good one Steph
hows your sister ,or what you want ?
lol ... ok then
Also worth thinking about indicating playing preferences as in artfizz classificatons. It is easy to assume , if one is a blether like me, that everyone likes to chat but of course that is not the case and often i fear my comments are endured on sufferance, not enjoyed. Disabling chat is an option of course and i got myself disabled recently: rest of smoke signals were made by a checkmate offer i could not refuse.Maybe as with best comedians- its the way you tell 'em !
You may see in our profiles , as in panel just above that after time zone info. a small r to indicate readiness to resign when relevant, and a large T indicating big on chatting !
I can chat all game or I can stop at "hello, have a good game." But IMO it's mandatory to greet your opponent. I've never been refused OTB. If I was, I'd do my best to crush them.
I find that here I take the same approach. If my opponent doesn't respond at all, several possible assumptions go through my mind:
- they are weak and scared
- they have no social skills
- they don't know the language
- they are kids
- they have no respect
The language barrier I can accept. The others all make me want to crush their sorry butts! At least that's what I think. I get motivated! here's one example. It felt good 
yeah that would be good :)