My wife hates chess

She said that she hopes chess.com goes under and that I never play chess again.

i'm assuming that responding with comments about her hobbies and pleasures in the same manner would not be a good idea. sucks to be a husband sometimes (not that i would know that).

She doesn't hate chess. She hates that you have fun without her.

Here's what you do. Tell her you are quitting chess, cold turkey, then pick up some more "normal" hobbies.

Then start going to play golf with your buddies all weekend, every weekend. Spend hundreds of dollars on lessons, new clubs, and greens fees. Come home drunk and exhausted every weekend.

Soon, she'll be begging you to go back to chess.

Or, try this tack...

Tell her that you've decided to spend more time with her and her interests. Then, follow her everywhere. When she goes to the mall with the girls, be there. When she goes to get her hair or nails done, be there. Smother her.

She'll be begging you to go back to chess.

oh yeah there has to be a balance for sure. the balance is "wife gets what she wants" and "husband gets what wife wants". see how it all works out in the end?

Not joking or anything but I think more sex would solve her issues. If the sex is good you can do whatever you want and she won't complain (unless she is one of those that complains no matter how good things are). Time to buy them toys if you know what I mean ;-)

While I agree that everyone enjoys building a nice solid fortress with Lego, I'm not sure it's the solution to his problems.

So basically, you are saying that to enjoy his chess hobby unimpeded, he just needs to sac(k) his Queen?

And hey, maybe if the standard is getting old, she'd enjoy trying a flank opening? 

Hahaha, good one. Priceless.

 I'm certain that if I tried this solution, my wife would say "Go play some chess."

 How long married? She's probably jealous of anything that takes your attention away from her. Maybe you can negotiate an approved amount of playing time. Or, you can negotiate points....exchange playing time for whatever it is she wants from you. If she won't negotiate, I feel your pain man. I've been living in that house for 20 years.

My wife doesn't hate chess......she just hates me.  That's why I play chess.

It's hard to say from the little info you give. If you are neglecting your family life to play chess then she is right, but if you are keeping a reasonable amount of time for your hobby then she is exaggerating. So the only true solution is to discuss it. Does she agree that you can spend a few hours a week playing chess? If so why not? If she is asking for your undivided attention all the time then your marriage needs counseling.

Many years ago, when I was a graduate student, I gave up competition chess because it was taking up too much of my time: one night a week for competition, the previous night for preparing, the next night for reviewing my games, another night for studying... I decided it just wsn't worth it - I had a family to take care of and my career wasn't going to be chess, so I gave up competition totally. I would do the same today.

The bottom line is that if a hobby is interfering with your life, given normal circumstances, then maybe you should reconsider your hobby.

We've been together 14 years and married for 9.

Actually, we are on vacation. We are in the Outer Banks in North Carolina. I want to play chess and she wants to go to the beach. 

Dang it! What is she thinking?  Her priorities are all screwed up.

Alright henri5, dont get into it, we dont all need to be in on this counseling sesh 

i hate chess too

!!!!!!!!!!!! chess.com  go under !!!!...throw her over your knee and 

give her damn good spanking for saying such a terrible thing...jeeees!

Problem solved!

Well if you play chess as you are having sex, what do you expect?

I think it is a very bad idea to play chess with your wife: if she wins, you never hear the end of it; if she loses, you are always on the losing end of it! 

My problem is that my wife always seems to find that moment when I am in a bad position and in deep thought about how to escape to ask "Are you busy, honey?" Of course, I blunder and always give here the wrong answer that I have pay for a couple of days of misery.

I got quite a bit of diversion from this topic so I would like to thank the person who started it!

When I was married to my first husband I was what I call a hunters widow.  He would go hunting every chance he got and the rest of the time he was out in the garage piddling with old vehicles that he bought.

He didn't like sex.  It ended very sadly.  Coming from a woman that does like sex I would suggest maybe you do try sex, unless, of course, as fate and Murphy's Law would have it, one of you likes sex and the other doesn't...