Your seek must include your own rating so you can keep puttting out seeks with a max of your rating and no minimum, and of course keep responding to seeks that are the same or lower rated than yours.
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I can understand your pain - try to play people around your current rating - after a while you will find those that play similar to you

- Follow this link http://www.chess.com/echess/players.html which lists players by rating, go to end of it - and challenge someone!
- Find someone better than you who is prepared to play an UNRATED game - and discuss during the game - how you can improve your game play.

Just to clarify, you dont get any ratings points for playing longer games, ie 'drawing out' games, but you will get points for drawing a game against someone higher rated than you. Ratings changes are based solely on the difference in ratings between you and your opponent, and the result of the match, ie 1, 1/2, or 0.

play me, i`ve only just joined & already lost 2 games lol, b4 that i fancied myself, now i got the rude awakening that i need to learn more

Play and play... See the moves or lose - =/ -- Just look at the board thats what I do.. Look hard and fast, calculate the best move and wait for a mistake --

One thing to consider is what they call 'playing up', which means to play opponents slightly higher than your current level. I myself am training for a real-life tournament in 2009, so I am playing against my computer at 2100+ ELO rating. One thing that playing up does is to show you what happens when you make a mistake. Bruce Lee once said that it is important to ask yourself 'Why am I falling?' In this manner, you can learn how not to fall in the future. The important question to answer for yourself is why you are playing chess. If you want to just beat other players, then playing at or below your current level will do the job. But hopefully there is more motivation than that. To truly grow in any endeavor, I would hope that you wish to improve. To improve at chess, you actually need to play against the people that will knock you around a bit. The great part is, then you pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and say 'Hey, what just happened?' Then you will learn. Chess is a wonderful community of people that more oft than not have a genuine interest in being sociable and helping each other improve. I would be happy to help any beginning player improve so that they can get more enjoyment from this great game. I am not a super genius or anything, but if anyone would like my help (1560 USCF rating), message me and I will do my best for you.
Happy chess
Mr Mike
Ok, I have played 5 games and lost 4 of them and I am pretty disgusted with myself. How can I go about finding people to play that I can beat and get my ratings up. Is that totally rude to ask? I hear that you get points for drawing out the game but I still would like to win a game and I am not a bad chess player I am rough though I guess and I underestimated my ability. Please help me. My ego is crushed right now.