Playing chess with wife, good idea or no?
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Will chess destroy relationships to a significant other?
snoozyman wrote:
you cant win...she will never allow you to win...not in arguments or chess...better not😜
Will chess destroy relationships to a significant other?
Jan 14, 2017
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#3
Depends on the relationship but it's probably a bit risky.
Chess isn't like Scrabble or Trivial Pursuit.
urk wrote:
😂😂😂 +10
Depends on the relationship but it's probably a bit risky.
Chess isn't like Scrabble or Trivial Pursuit.
if you need to ask that, probably best not to.
Jan 14, 2017
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#6
It could be fun and harmless, as long as neither you nor your wife are under the delusion that chess skill is a measure of overall intelligence.
If you both play blindfold I think it might be okay.
Jan 14, 2017
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#8
If she enjoys it, this may ruin the rest of your lives. What if that's all the two of you do from now on?
Jan 14, 2017
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#9
Marrying was the bad idea. As for playing chess with your wife, well, give it a try. But after trying please tell us if two consecutive mistakes are the same as a correct decision.
Jan 14, 2017
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kingofshedinjas wrote:
Marrying was the bad idea. As for playing chess with your wife, well, give it a try. But after trying please tell us if two consecutive mistakes are the same as a correct decision.
Double sac, but you bet on sex and get more than adequate compensation either way (even if you lose, you just get better at chess).
Jan 14, 2017
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#12
If your ratings are close, then wow what a great activity to share! If she's unrated and you want to teach her to play, don't go there.
My wife doesn't play, so no problem. In my youth I dated a chess player around the same rating as me, and our games brought us closer. But I see a lot of chess players try to pull people into the game and it doesn't work out well. Also if somebody wants to play to get closer to you, it doesn't work out well. You don't want to introduce activities with a large power imbalance.
If there is a big rating gap and she wants to play, just go to the club together, or find a coffee shop that does "winner stays" and play at the same board. You might play a few games against each other eventually, but it won't dominate the chess experience.
I regularly play blitz with my wife. She is currently 2168 FIDE rated, so the games have quite a bit of suspense.
My wife and I met because of chess and we play each other a lot . We normally play 5 0 blitz and I tend to win 80% of the games .
I'm sure Pfren's missus will draw inspiration from the 'later in life' observation 
Like with every competition the outcome is giving some information about the higher or lower developed skill regarding the specific competition. Usually competitions are useful to define your level in the group and also who stands at the top (the boss who kicked them all).
Winning is like people are rather looking up to you and quite often do strange action because they are jealous. Losing people is quite the opposite.
So think yourself whether leveling up / down within a relationship is good in your case. Sometimes this can be the salt and sometimes the knife for the relationship.
Naked is probably OK.
