Problem Developing pieces

What do i do if m playing black n the white instantly becomes agressive from the very beginning of the game?? i find myself only defending and not developing any piece :/

Thay probably are just pushing pawns, which doesn't always work out so well, err, almost never.  Knights are good for this, or use your pawns to force a trade to develop a peice.

If its minor pieces or queen and a piece...you definatly can deal with this.  It's almost never more then two pieces making an attack in the first 10 or so moves.  Don't always be afraid to recapture and use your king to take a piece if the posistion calls for it.

You can always rethreaten.  I am still relativly new too eh but those are just a couple things I find sorta work eh.  Not always but try it.  Best of luck.

Personally, I have 2 ways I like to deal with these types of players:

1 - Trade-off all the attacking pieces. I believe most people who play the way you described are not good at the endgame since they seem to be trying so hard to get an early win. Of course, the only issue is if YOUR endgame skills are good.

2 - The more accepted approach is to defend with developing moves. Quite often, in this case, a threat can be staved off with more than one canidate move. Choose the ones that go toward developing pieces. In the end, you will have a pretty decent, if not perfect defense, and their pieces will all be out of place.

Don't let these guys intimidate you. When they make an attacking move without properly preparing their position, they are quite often worsening their position more than they are yours.

MrKornKid has a good point; usually your opponent is using 1 or 2 pieces. Unless you REALLY screw-up during these attacks, they are not going to checkmate you with just 2 pieces.

I used to be intimidated by these types of attacks too. Then I began to discover the word 'balance'. In this case, they are getting 'out of balance' because they are wasting tempi. Remember, the variables in chess go well beyond the pieces you see on the board.

I think what makes it intimidating is you/me/begginners tend to watch videos and take advice on how to develop and how important it is.  So I think we expect all other begginners to do the same.  And when we get another beginner that chooses not to develop, it throws us off from what we've been taught. 

Sometimes I will develop heavy on one side to counter a center pawn push.  That sometimes works for me.

Yes, this is why it is usually benefical to make developing moves when possible; because, in the end, if their attack fails, you will be in a position to fight back and they will be scurring to try and stop YOUR attack.

And remember to protect your pieces if you want to attack yourself.

I realize you are a NM, so you know what you are saying. But why in the world would you want to attack yourself?

Thanks a lot guys for the advice :)

This is why tactics are important. Sometimes "following the rules" may be tactically unsound and so you may have to find another way to achieve your goals.