Q about rules and ethics

I am playing an online friend and was offered a draw of which I turned down. I have 3 questions..

1) My friend ask me for a draw, I turned it down...Is it polite for me to offer a draw now, after a few moves? 

2) If I ask for a draw, and draw is refused, is it O.K. to ask again after a reasonable amount of moves? (I believe the answer to this one is yes).

3) Is it ethical to ask a third party to look at the battle, and suggest that a draw would be wise, not wise, or a toss up?

BTW, I searched for "ethics", "rules" and such but did not find anything on this, except that it is rude to ask for a draw 2 times in a row, I believe.

Thanks in advance peeps of chess.com!

Alex "sully" Sullivan

Chess is just like war, except no one dies...A.G.S.

1:   sure

2:   yes, u can do this every time after you made your move

3:  no

There are no ethics in chess. The are a defined and very thorough set of rules in place for every situation, so ethics are not necessary.

Hi AlexSullivan1001--the only situation when you should suggest a draw is if neither side has any realistic chances of winning.  Any other factors, like whether your opponent thinks it's a draw or thought it was a draw five turns ago, are irrelevant.  It's definitely fine to ask for a draw multiple times when you feel it's clear to your opponent that no progress is being made.  Having a third party analyze a game in progress is generally cheating, unless it's a tournament arbiter or other official referee.  This person has to know to only observe the game as it progresses and to avoid making suggestions towards its outcome.

Chess on the computer is less formal than at a tournament.

At a tournament, it's not polite to ask for a draw after every move.  Online, it doesn't really matter.

It's never impolite to offer a draw a few moves after they offered.  In fact I think most people would be happy to get the draw they wanted a few moves ago.

As for #3, usually no.  No outside help.  Integrity of the rating system and all that.  But online chess isn't so serious... if both players agree it's ok to ask for a 3rd party's opinion, then sure, why not.

At a tournament asking a 3rd party would be cheating and you'd risk being forfeited / banned.

Well,

Thanks to all for ironing out these inquires..

Apprreciate it much! 

Now, back to war!

Alex