"Your opponent has disabled chat"

Serious question here : why do people disable chat during blitz games? I find it rude, I go to type in "good luck" and the message comes up "your opponent has disabled chat".

This immediately makes me think : "well screw you too buddy!" and I kinda lose the desire to even play.

I can see someone doing it if It is interfering or I am chatting constantly through the game. But to start off with chat disabled? why bother?

So much for saying good game at the end.  

Some people disable chat because they don't want the distraction. Some do it to avoid abusive players.

Generally speaking, if it is disabled when the game starts it is configured to automatically disabled  in their settings. It isn't a statement about you specifically. 

https://www.chess.com/forum/view/livechess/message-to-people-who-disable-chat

ok so your saying I am not the first to mention this in forums? Nice way of telling me to zip it perhaps?

Not at all. I just thought you would like to know about a recent thread that discussed this very subject.

Probably because so many players are abusive these days.

What is the point of being abusive? I thought Chess was a gentlemans game.

slimcheffy wrote:

What is the point of being abusive? I thought Chess was a gentlemans game.

Because they can with no real life consequences.

 Too many jerks in this world to count.

Life is much easier when you don't take offense over the actions of anonymous strangers.

My simple rule is this:

You disable chat - I auto-decline rematches.  Sometimes I decline because I don't have time, but if you disable chat at the start of the game, I automatically decline rematches against you, regardless if I won, lost, or drew and regardless of whether I had White or Black.

And before you say anything, I don't owe you jack if I played one game against you, had White, and won!  Heard that sad song a million times here on chess.com forums!

agreed! I do the same thing, and contrary to TheSonofSorrow82's comment I believe Chess is a social affair. I have met some very good people through chat during games. If you don't want to chat why not just play the computer.

Computers don't play the same as people. 

I keep my chat on but rarely chat during a blitz game. Just too much of a distraction. After the game is fine. 

The disagreement about chatting during a live game is easy to understand.  Many people want to treat live chess games here the same way they would treat a rated OTB tournament game -- where talking during the game is forbidden because it distracts the opponent.  On the other hand, some people think of chess games mainly as a social occassion, where they specifically seek friendly verbal interaction.  It all comes down to the fact that we play chess for different reasons.  To each his own.

Fair enough but still, I think it's good to wish good luck at the beginning and to say good game afterwards, win or lose. I don't think anybody has time to really chat during blitz games, it's just not possible. Having said that, I still for some reason get offended when they disable chat before the game even starts.

Many people disable chat due to unpleasnt experiences in the past where they were the victim of abusive language.  Once a person disables chat, it stays that way unless they re-enable chat.  So when you encounter someone whose chat is already disabled at the start of the game, please keep this in mind.

My approach is to leave chat always on no matter what.  If someone send abusive comments/questions my way, I simply ignore it, and let them waste their own time while I simply focus on the chess board.  If I recieve friendly words, I might send a quick reply to the effect of "let's talk after the game", just like I would with an OTB game.

I am glad the disable chat feature is there and have used it myself when encountering a rude person. It doesn't stay on though when you enable it for a game, it's just for that game. The people you speak of must go into their settings and disable it permanently, which means of course they are not interested in socializing. As you say turbo, to each their own, but I do not enjoy playing those type of people, they take it way to serious.

I guess there a 2 schools of thought here, the serious competetive Chess players and the recreational players. I myself am the latter, even when I play OTB I will always chat and socialize with my opponent, it's casual, social, fun. Unless you are a professional player I don't really get the whole talking is forbidden thing.

I did not know that the chat had to be manually disabled for each live game (unless it is already meta-disabled in some menu, as you stated).  Nevertheless, this makes no difference to me.  I respect that people don't want to risk verbal abuse (and remember that there are many children here).  I don't mind socializing between rounds if my opponents initiate it, but I rarely rely on the internet for social interaction (which also explains why I have no interest in social media like Facebook).