I haven't ever encountered anything like this before, normally in live chess, ( although I don't play a lot of it ) I just start up a friendly conversation with my opponent and they end up on my friends list...that might be a way to avoid it.
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I beat a guy in a 5 minute blitz game recently, offered him a rematch, and he promptly responded with "*******", which I found rather unnecessary, considering I hadn't said a word to him or done anything that might be considered untoward in the game.
I find it idiotic to feel insulted by some random guy calling you an idiot on the Internets
"Has anyone else encountered abuse like this?"
Never.
"What do I do about it?"
I usually get my retaliation in, first.
darfur wrote:
I played a game against a player called [NAME DELETED by Moderator] today. It was closely contested and in time trouble I found a good plan but blundered.
He asks for a rematch, then we play two moves before he call me an
"idiot" and leaves.
Is this typical on chess.com? Are members allowed to behave in such unwarranted
and rude fashion. I enjoy the site, but players like [NAME DELETED by Moderator] are taking me away from it.
Has anyone else encountered abuse like this? What do I do about it?
Mod got the name so only the people who already read it know the vital secrets of life 
you could just disable chat...
Have only encountered one rude person in nearly two years on the site. Simply blocked him so he can' play against me. Vast majority of folks here are stand up people!
I have never encountered a rude person on Chess.com. If I did they would only have one chance to be rude. I would the block them. Some people choode every chance to show how classy they are.
darfur wrote:
I played a game against a player called [NAME DELETED by Moderator] today. It was closely contested and in time trouble I found a good plan but blundered.
He asks for a rematch, then we play two moves before he call me an
"idiot" and leaves.
Is this typical on chess.com? Are members allowed to behave in such unwarranted
and rude fashion. I enjoy the site, but players like [NAME DELETED by Moderator] are taking me away from it.
Has anyone else encountered abuse like this? What do I do about it?
I have had one encounter with a typical punk on the site. He was in a definate winning position but started using abusive language when I did not resign immediately. I pointed out that his bravado was fairly cowardly given the protection afforded by the web. Of course, this just brought more abuse since he knew he was safely tucked away from answering in person for his rudeness.
When I contacted the site admin, he suggested that I just disable chat. In hindsight, ignoring socially inept morons is probably the best way to discourage their poor behavior. If I were you, i would just put this bad encouter behind you and look forward to the other 99.9% of the users who are here just to enjoy the game.
EuropeanSon wrote:
I beat a guy in a 5 minute blitz game recently, offered him a rematch, and he promptly responded with "fvck you", which I found rather unnecessary, considering I hadn't said a word to him or done anything that might be considered untoward in the game.
Word of advise: Wait for the losing side to ask you for a rematch!
What to do when someone is rude to you during a chess game.
Post a forum topic about this rude person, inculding this persons username.
Responses will include:
people sharing similar experiences of rudeness of fellow chess-players
people stating just to block them
people stating that people who are rude online are cowards
People who question were etiquette has gone
Pictures of E-thugs
All of this will end up as another forum topic which has been done a plethora of previous times.
The conclusion, the realisation that is unneccessary to name rude users of this site and the best thing to do is to block the offending user or disable chat in your games.
To save time, feel free to search forum topics and look up previous responses to this occurrence.
heinzie wrote:
I find it idiotic to feel insulted by some random guy calling you an idiot on the Internets
Well idiotic might be a bit strong, but I certainly agree with the general point. You just shouldn't let a completely irrational (and the person doing it, if he's over the age of 10, knows this!) comment, based on, what, the losing of a game(?), bother you. There are surely tons of geniuses who are horrible at chess (not that they couldn't get good if they put in the time, but that's the thing!). The only way it pisses me off is that I'm reminded that there are, unfortunately, jerks out there who feel compelled to make a negative comment to "confirm their superiority".
I've been on many internet sites full of e-thugs and trolls, but never have I met a site as nice as chess.com. On most sites, about 50% of the people I meat are jerks, but on this site, about 99.9% of the people are very nice, friendly players.
I think rudeness is a cry for help. Try reaching out to this rude person to learn the genesis of his behavior. Respond to his misbehavior with kindness, compassion, love and understanding. And if that doesn't work, block his juvenile butt.
BadRobot59 wrote:
Have only encountered one rude person in nearly two years on the site. Simply blocked him so he can' play against me. Vast majority of folks here are stand up people!
Same here- most of the people that I meet on this site are very friendly.
batgirl wrote:
I think rudeness is a cry for help. Try reaching out to this rude person to learn the genesis of his behavior. Respond to his misbehavior with kindness, compassion, love and understanding. And if that doesn't work, block his juvenile butt.
The cool thing is, once you get over that initial revulsion and turn on the kindness-engine, it feels really good to come into a situation with this attitude.
Man, I should clean my specs. I thought it said nude members.
Ah well.....
rooperi wrote:
Man, I should clean my specs. I thought it said nude members.
Ah well.....
patience, my friend... 
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I played a game against a player called [NAME DELETED by Moderator] today. It was closely contested and in time trouble I found a good plan but blundered.
He asks for a rematch, then we play two moves before he call me an
"idiot" and leaves.
Is this typical on chess.com? Are members allowed to behave in such unwarranted
and rude fashion. I enjoy the site, but players like [NAME DELETED by Moderator] are taking me away from it.
Has anyone else encountered abuse like this? What do I do about it?