ha! Good point. Well, one person did apologise afterwards, to be fair. I think I will just turn the chat off. My 9 year old son also plays on here,andI don't want him getting called that, so I've already asked him to turn it off.
Mostly very positive experiences on this site, I should add. Great to be able toplay chess enthusiasts from all around the world.
One person calling you that out of the blue is weird, two people doing it might be cause to reflect.
Dodger, the 1st time, the guy said I was cheating. Is this even possible? He blundered, my knight took his, then he said the my knight and his knight had disappeared off the board. Maybe he was having a computer problem, maybe he was making it up. Either way, in spite of being called a cheat and and a-, I gave him a draw and a re-match.
2nd time, I think it's just because I was beating her.
But, you're right, maybe it is me... 
A few days ago, the board had issues on both of our computers. We politely called it a draw and started a new game. I couldn't move my pieces and he was missing pieces that I still had in play.??????? Whats that about? Obvious software issue. However, restraint is necessary while we play these intricate games. Some players seem to loose control a little.
In the last week or so I have been called an 'a**hole' twice by players I am playing in the chat. Is this acceptable, do you think, and should I just ignore it?