What time limit should i play?

Since i dislike any kind of speed chess and i am still learning chess i was wondering what ingame time i should go with to learn it the best?

Since this is a hobby and your family isn't being held hostage or anything like that, then IMO there are 3 things to balance:

1) Enough time to put thought into your moves, so the errors provide real improvement potential (instead of "I moved too fast").

2) A comfortable time control so that you're motivated to play. Because ultimately experience is better than no experience.

3) If the time control is too long, it will be difficult to find opponents.

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So something like 15/15 or 30/0 I guess. But there's no magic/correct answer here.

If you are willing to spend some time I would chose longer time controls, like 45 45. (Real tournament games usually have something like 90/30 for 40 moves + 15 min or so...)  I would certainly recommend to play with an increment to avoid time pressure at the end.

i like bullet because you get to practice tactics and try and analyze your mistakes. butyou should only try bullet when you get at a stronger level.

Probably 30/0 is the absolute fastest for someone who isn't yet USCF / FIDE 1500 level. 

Players under 1500 don't have a very developed board vision. They have a difficulty seeing the connections between the pieces, and the various lines of the chessboard in the present position - not to mention in calculation. 

So it takes time to do all of the mental - "I go here, then he goes here, I take this, then he takes that - wait, what if he takes that other one?". 

But practicing slowly, one eventually builds the habit, begins to see the lines and the squares, begins to get familiar with the way typical games evolve, improves, and can later play faster time controls with more confidence, and enjoy more (rather than feel that the room is spinning or something...)

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It may be harder to find someone for an even slower time control online - but maybe you can use the forums for that purpose - start a thread and try to get to know people who would agree to play with you in slow time controls (if you have friends in the neighborhood who can do that, or join a club - better still). 

Another idea - I know that NM aww-rats is arranging some groups of people who play 45/45 - which is a great time control for U1500 people (probably also for higher rated people, of course - but for the U1500 it's simply GOLD). Maybe try to locate him on the site - it can help, and be fun - play at a rhythm that allows you really to stand behind each move you play, not just play because there's no time and you got to make a move. 

Thank everyone a lot for the answers i highly appreciate it!

What 0101010101100 said. (don't correct me)

You're welcome :-)

Bitte Erklärung zu den Time limits. Was genau bedeutet 45 | 45, usw.

Danke

If you hate speed chess, play with an increment so that you will always have at least a few seconds to find your move.

15|10 15 minutes with 10 seconds increment per move
It is the official FIDE rapid time control
Thanks to the increment you can always win a won position or draw a draw position without losing on time
15|10 otherwise is almost the same as 30|0